Nothing but a sweary rant about my baby and his dreadful sleep.

[rolypolybird84]

Just need to rant.

He has always woken in the night to what I would think of as quite average amounts. But it seems to be getting worse. Wakes many, many, many times through the night. Want to punch any person who tells me how marvellously their baby sleeps. Even a 3 hour stretch would have me shouting from the rooftops. He has never once slept for 3 hours.

What the fuck is with the babies that sleep through the night at 6 weeks? There seems to be not one single baby from my antenatal group that doesn't either sleep through or regularly do 5/6 hour stretches. People telling me with such casual air that their baby wakes for one feed a night. Just fuck. Right. Off.

That is all.

It's okay, your baby is far more interested in the world around them, everyone else has boring babies also, people lie. A lot. Because a good proportion of people genuinely think that baby's sleep = reflection on their parenting.

If only I could persuade DD that the world is a much nicer place when you've had a decent night's sleep, I wouldn't need to be rude about everyone else!

Thank you. You have no idea how comforting your replies are!

He is 10 weeks and absolutely wonderful. Feel bad for moaning! I think I was disappointed as every single night I live in hope it will be a better and every night it gets a little bit worse!!!

But tonight it will definitely be better. Definitely...
because I plan to sleep in the shed

10 weeks is still very young I promise it will not last forever and it will get easier eventually

Gosh 10 weeks is still very little. Baby doesn't yet even realise they are a separate entity to you.

When I read your OP with talk of other babies sleeping through I thought your baby might be 10 months or so - a time when many, but not all, babies are sleeping through.

At 10 weeks it will only be a small proportion who are sleeping 11pm-7am, even tinier proportion sleeping 7pm-7am.

Plus take heed from the fact that sleep development is not linear and while your antenatal pals might have babies sleeping through now, they may well go through a regression and suddenly be faced with multiple night wakes.

Just to back up Fate - DD2 was doing 5/6 hours at 6w. Last week she woke up every hour all I know for certain about baby sleep is never be smug when you're in a good patch, it may not last!

Ah thank you! I realise I was being rather ridiculous...I don't truly expect DS to sleep brilliantly I was just very tired after waking every 45 minutes or so several days in a row!

I am very grateful for the perspective you lovely bunch!

I'm right there with you Roly! DD is 10 weeks. Like you, I want to throw something at those mums in my first time mums group everytime they mention the phrase 'sleeping through' or smugly say 'xx loves his/her sleep'. Argh!

Things had started to get better with DD, but now she's gone back to not quite square one, but close enough. Last night was hellish, I felt so angry with her then so guilty.

Rationally I know it will get better, but that doesn't really mean much when you're wild eyed from lack of sleep and oh listen, is that baby waking again?? But you only put her down checks clock 20 minutes ago!!

It's just so damn hard.

You are not being ridiculous to expect more sleep - every baby is different and you just don't know how it will go. But yes, nothing stays the same and that applies to the current 'through the nighters' too

purpleboa tonight is our night. Our babies will sleep brilliantly I just know it!

Do not think about the previous 70 nights

(Waves at purpleboa - we were on the overdue and fed up thread 10 weeks ago!)

Ditto my 10 week old woke 4 times last night.... aside from the fact they are waking us up, I don't know about you but I feel like a total mug feeding him back to sleep when I know he's not hungry and/or rocking and ssshhhing him for 15 mins stood up whilst glaring at DH snoring away and being so desperate to lie down again...!!!

I'm trying to keep the faith as DS1 was particularly shocking but then all of a sudden clicked at 20 weeks. Am praying DS2 will follow the same path....!!

As for others who have sleepy angels - they are lying!!!!!!

In the words of House - everybody lies. I don't think as many babies actually do sleep through as we are led to believe.

DC1 slept through the night at 6 weeks and was generally a great sleeper apart from 4 months of hell when she was a year old. DC2 is a year and has not slept through once....in fact last night she woke 4 times. I survive on fresh air, cake, coffee and wine! Good luck OP it does get better (eventually!)

If it makes you feel any better (I don't think it will, but I feel so sorry for myself) my DS is 10.5 months and still wakes at least once a night. At this rate your DS will be sleeping through before mine!!

Keep up the good work, apparently it doesn't last forever ....!!

Ah another post natal group today, the topic was sleep. Another mum telling me 9 week baby sleeping through the night.

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