if you co-sleep with an older baby/toddler...

[purplemonkeydishwasher]

how do you do the whole going to bed thing? do you lay with your dc until he/she falls asleep then leave? or do you just go to bed at the same time?
my ds goes to sleep around 830ish (after much faffing) but he wakes up so easily and often that i usually either keep him with me on the couch or go to bed myself.
our bed is high and i'm also worried that he'll fall.

hind sight is a wonderful thing!
I have a 3 sided cot beside our bed but i SOO wish we had gotten one like you have

We slept with ds until he was 3 - we lay down / rocked him until he was asleep then crept out and had the rest of our evening before rejoining him. We have a big futon on the floor so falling out was not an issue.

i feed dd to sleep in our bed, then sneak out. normally she wakes during the evening & i go up & resettle her. if it happens too many times i give up & go to bed.... we have a super-kingsize bed & it's pretty low.

Ds is 19mo, I feed him to sleep in his own bed, and he comes in with us some time between 10pm and midnight usually, depending on what time we go to bed. If he wakes during the evening I just go up to resettle with another bf.

Hi, Hoxtonchick - v envious of your super-kingsize!

Purplemonkey - I stopped cosleeping with ds (well, until about 4am, usually) when I put him and dd in same room. now, he sometimes gets in with dd and only comes in to us when it's morning.
before, I used to wedge him in with pillows and duvet around edge of bed, but probably not v safe. mattress on the floor probably the least stressful scenario!

my ds aged 2 has been in a brilliant routine for a week! i bath him at 6 and by 6.30 hes fell asleep on me in my bed while watching bob the builder on video i move him off me and he sleeps in a "V" shape pillow which coccoons him to stop him falling out.

i share the bed only with him as on my own, couldnt imagine sharing a bed with a toddler and another adult, must be a right squeeze

hi dinny . are you still feeding your ds? dd is 17 months now, & i wouldn't mind stopping but can't work out how to....

yes, still feeding him , HC! ditto - would like to stop but can't really seem to do it (he is a total addict!)

we dont officially cosleep (anymore) here, but if one of the older ones wakes in the night (2 or 3yo - they have own beds but in same room) i often end up in one of their beds, initailly just to soothe them back to sleep, but i end up staying more often than not. either that or one or both of them pad into our room at some point in the night or v early morning and get in with us. and if the 10mo wakes in the night, dp gets up, settles him and puts back in cot, because if i get up, i just bring him into bed (im shite at being awake and disciplined in the night).

i love it tho! i sometimes wish we could just have one great big enrmous bed for dp, me and the 3 lo's. theyre so cuddly and cute asleep!

i really like co-sleeping too nappies. dp is resigned to it.....

we need a support group dinny & kvg!

it's 'cos we rule the world aviatrix .

Don't really thinks this counts as co-sleeping my two (5.7 and 2.9) will happily and easily fall asleep alone - but regularly wake in the night and end up in our bed. Usually it's ds atm, and when it's both of them, dd sleeps at the end of the bed on a doubled up duvet with blankets over her.

I like when dd is in with us (she's quiet anc cuddly) but ds constantly grabs, pokes, hooks his leg over me, rolls over so he's about half an inch away from your face etc. It's not good for me, but he loves it! And that closeness doesn't last. dd just beginning to grow out of it.