14 month old waking two or three times every night !

[Pip26]

Hi - hope someone has some ideas, coz we are really tired here!!

My second child is nearly 14 months and goes to bed at 7pm. Has been waking at 5am for months but lately it's getitng worse. Wakes at 1am or 3am crying until we give him some milk. Last night he was awake at 11pm, then 3am then slept until 7am. Finding it hard as my daughter always slept 7pm until 8am. We are taking turns getting up in the night but very busy at work during the day so it's starting to wear us out!

Had to move bedrooms round too so he doesn't disturb my daughter at 3am or 5am! Any ideas? We do let him cry it out sometimes but only a bottle will satisfy him in the end! He only has one or two short naps during the day now (maybe an hour each) some days refuses to sleep during day either but looks sooooooooo tired! Poor mite.

Will be watching this thread as my 9month baby keeps waking up 3/4 times a night for a feed. Tried controlled crying made her even worse. Am hoping she will grow out of it

Hi Pip26

I am sorry i cant add any advice - i have just posted a thread about the same sort of thing - as my 14 months DS is waking at 1am every night - and then goes down for an hour then awake again at 2 then at 3 - then i give up and get him in with us as we both have to go to work. I really dont understand why he is waking either - have tried controlled crying to and that doesnt work on him either. I will be watching your thread and perhaps you can on mine to see if any mums have any more advice for us. xx

Hi - I'm new to the website and again, I haven't really got any advice except to say we're in a very similar position! My 9month old is waking 3-4 times a night and is wanting a feed at least 2 or 3 times. About 6 weeks ago she was sleeping through, or only waking once so I don't know what's happened. Her top two teeth are coming through so maybe that is partly the reason ... I've always demand-fed but I really don't know if I should still be feeding her so much at night (my health visitor says no!) Dh and I are so tired.

Hi. Sophbod - my dd went through the same thing at 9 months too, as did some of her friends - it seems to be something that happens at that age, although I don't know why. Dd was sleeping fine from 6.30pm-7am ans then it all went haywire - waking at all sorts of times in the night and in the end I would just take her into bed with me.

I know it has it's critics, and it has to be something that is right for the individual, but cc really worked for us. It is tough and will not work if you are not 100% committed to it, but by the end of the week the cycle was broken and she was sleeping through again. It's not for everyone, but it worked for us.

i believe its a developmmental stage they are going through. My only advice to you is to go with the flow. as they get more and more active they will drop one of the sleeps during the day and this should even out and get rid of the sleep disturbance during the day. CC gives a little on a rough times imo. It just seems to me that you are telling your baby that 'no' mummy is not going to comfort you when you need her most and you (at such a young age) should be sleeping at night. Its just a phase so please take solace in the fact that most of us go through it but they do grow out of it when they are developmentally ready to do so.
Its perfectly normal

Hi guys,
Thanks for your advice - it's very comforting to hear that other people have been through the same thing. I know CC works for some but I don't think I can do it, and I agree that if you are going to, you've got to be consistent and committed. So I guess we will carry on as we are - dd often comes into bed with us but even that is not always working at the moment! She's nearly crawling and getting quite frustrated in the daytime so maybe once she is on the move her night time habits will change too (fingers crossed!).

my daughter did this at 13 months. She's nearly 15 months now. I think it is just a thing they go through, which is hell when you have just got used to sleeping at night again!
We just had to ride it out. Take them to bed with you when they wake up if that sits okay with you, it enabled us to get some sleep and she seemed to sleep a lot better next to us for a bit. She's back in her own room through the night now.
Not very helpful I know, but it does pass.

I tried CC with my daughter at 14 months, because she was waking once a night and sometimes taking a long time to get back to sleep. After a few nights it seemed to have worked, and then she slept through beautifully each night for six weeks. But during the Christmas week she began waking again and some nights has taken several hours to get back to sleep. She is quiet and content as long as we are in the room, but when we leave she stands up, shakes the bars of the cot, and cries. We tried CC again but gave up this time, because it seemed as though she was only falling asleep through exhaustion after hours of crying. We worried that it was making things worse as she is now getting very upset at bedtime, which never used to be a problem. So at present we are staying with her at bedtime until she goes to sleep, and during the night if she wakes up. Unsurprisingly we are all now exhausted. Perhaps we should have persisted with the CC, but despite the previous success, we weren't convinced it was working. I wonder if the Christmas disruption to her routine might partly be the reason she started waking up again.

16month ds is doing this too now.

He has slept through from 7-7, since last christmas, without exception. He always goes down to all naps and bedtimes happily and goes to sleep without any fuss.

But over the last few weeks has begun to wake up at 1, then 2, then 3 etc etc

We leave him to try and resettle himself, which does work sometimes, but if he doesn't resettle one of us will go in, comfort and put down. He will go back to sleep but only for about 20 mins and is then awake again.

He has been such a good sleeper that this has come as such a shock.

What more can we do?