What's pissing my 9mo off now??!!

[MioNome]

Bedtime with DS2 has always been a lengthy process. Much feeding, rocking, swaying, more feeding, more rocking and bouncing. He often gets to bedtime overtired so can be cranky and difficult to get over the hump and fall asleep.

But in the last few days it's become increasingly difficult to do any of these things. Won't feed to sleep, often refusing milk (boob) at all until I've rocked him calm and sleepy enough to feed. He pushes me away when I try to hold him to rock/bounce and it takes me ages to get him down.

It's particularly depressing as he's awake again 40/60mins later and I have to start over.

Does something happen around this age?? Is sleep going to pot a thing round this age?

I think it may also be a sign that things just aren't working anymore and I need to sleep train to get him to start putting himself to sleep, as clearly what I have to offer isn't doing the trick anymore....

My DD is 9m in a couple of weeks and virtually all my friends with babies of the same age are moaning about sleep at the moment! With my DD it was taking her 2-3 hours to go to sleep from being put down, requiring feeding and rocking to sleep, where it'd usually take her 10 mins on her own with dummy. Other friends are having multiple night wakings, waking to feed, etc.
Apparently there's an 8/9 month sleep regression, separation anxiety is kicking in, often they're starting to crawl and maybe stand and it's prime teething time. Plus with us I think it was weaning- she finally started eating a decent amount for tea, then wasn't hungry enough for much bedtime milk so it would take multiple attempts at a feed to get her feeling full enough for sleep.
Hope it eases for you soon!

Mmmmm all sounds veeeeery familiar...! Guess it's a case of grin and bear it!

Google 9 month sleep regression. Both my children were horrendous around that time.

I'd stop the rocking and bouncing as it may be stimulating her more. I found that implementing more of an older child bedtime routine helped a bit with this as it broke the negative sleep associations my DS had made. It still took him ages to get himself off to sleep but that's part of learning to self settle, if she's awake but just chatting away to herself then I wouldn't focus too much on the getting to sleep because she'll eventually drop off.

Maybe, except he screams like his throat is being cut the minute I put him in his cot... I can't just seen him lying down and putting himself to sleep :(

Experiencing the same thing myself. Nap times are grand, bedtime is fine but we've got 2/3 wake ups each night that are traumatic for everyone...including the neighbours. The advice seems to be it's a sleep regression, it'll pass and just stick to whatever good routines and sleep associations are in place. It's so hard though....