CC/Gradual retreat: How do you comfort the child?

[araminem]

So far we have been walking or feeding our DC to sleep. Not a great plan. SO we are looking at maybe trying out some sleep training. What I am not very clear about is what to do to comfort the child e.g.
with CC: you go out of the room and come back after a set time if the baby is crying. However, you shouldn't pick DC up, or interact too much. Or have I got that wrong?
And the same with Gradual retreat. You stay in the room, but if the DC starts crying how do you comfort them?

We tried everything from the 'No cry sleep solution' to Gina Ford. After about 9mths, and with the guidance of my HV who was brilliant, we did our own version of CC. I found actually that the more I was with my baby and the more I went it to comfort her the more upset she became. It was 3 nights of decreasing amounts of crying. Wish we'd done it earlier.

So I recommend you have a wee read around and then find your own way. As someone up thread mentioned earlier, every child and situation is different and you will need to find what works for you and your family.

phfff CC is child abuse! what rubbish. a bit of CC will not have a long term effect on your child. Sleep deprivation for baby and you might though!

Yeah see what works for you and the baby you could try doing gradual retreat for naps and work up to night time its all trial and error try for a week and then if 1 thing doesnt work try something else