what did i do wrong? no sleep

[frumpyfred]

my ds is 6mths and been through many phases , best 1 2mths ago just woke once for a drink at 4am , this however only lasted 3nights , he got a cold , it went tits up , then resumed to 2 drinks a night , then as food was introduced his 30minday naps increased and nightime has become a 2.5/3hrly wake up , with a wake up at 4.30 which results in 30min sleeps in cot or hourly if i take him in bed with me - not interested in his milk till early afternnon , and i dont know if i have given too much food , never been a big milk drinker which is why he woke thro night , i feel like a failure , its adding to my pnd which is horrendous at period time when i feel suicidal (wouldnt do anything cos love him too much) but the thought is there and thats scary.....can anyone help? family and friends say why do you worry - he is happy and healthy but i am not and have started smoking after 2yrsf

My dd's sleep went haywire when she started solids, then settled down again after about a month. I know that's no help at all, but sometimes it helps knowing others have been in similar situations.

Please remember, if it gets too much, there's nothing wrong with putting him in his cot and shutting the door just to give yourself a much needed break.

Just thought - I'll probably get shot down for this, but here goes anyway ...

One night we forgot to turn the baby monitor on and were so exhausted that we slept through the night time waking and crying. Felt so bad about it the next day but she actually had much better night time sleeps after that.

thanks wriggle , he is still in my room at the moment and i am a horrendously light sleeper - it still helps to know you went through something similar , he did actually improve last night , did one 5hr sleep , a few more 'small' wake ups and asked for milk at 2 and 5 which then meant he slept till 8 which was quite heavenly !

Excellent news. I'd definitely recomend him going into his own room if possible, then either leave the inbetween doors open or turn the monitor down low. That way you won't wake at every single murmer. dd sometimes wakes, whinges for 10 secs or so then resettles herself, whereas when she was next to me I used to get her up at the slightest noise.

I co-sleep at times but in bed in dd room. Most of the time she is in her room on her own though and it works well this way for dh and I. I found that dd learned to settle herself better when I also turned the monitor down low, as when it was at full volume I would rush in and pick her up any time there was a small sound and perhaps when she did not really need picking up.

I hope you feel more positive about things soon. Take care.

thanks again for all your replies - i think ds was definitely just unsettled with the beginning of weaning - each night since has been better and better and i will be weaning myself out of the room soon altho that will then mean the return to dp's snoring!