If you lay with your DC to get them to sleep..

[Questi0ns]

How did you ever end it?

At the moment it's taking 1 hour + for DS (2 years) to drift off to sleep with one of us with him. I don't mind but my DH does. Once he's asleep in our bed then one of us transfers him to his crib then he mostly STTN.

We have a new baby and its getting a bit much for DH.

I'm wondering if anyone else did something similar and how it ever stopped?

After 2 I think explain, explain , explain is your best bet for almost everything...

ds was nearly 5 before we sorted his similar problem out. we tried everything listed here and nothing worked

in the end the only thing that did work was putting him in the same room as his toddle sister.

ds just didn't like being alone.

until dd was old enough to share, 2.5ish, we just had to put up with the situation. it pushed our patience to the very limit but nothing else was working

DH and I sit with DS (7yo) on his bed. It gives us a chance to talk to him in the dark, and cuddle him in a way that doesn't happen during the day, as he's a ball of energy and often quite spiky after school (where he's unhappy).

I've started reading to DS (and letting him read) from my back-lit e-reader, and then after the chapter he must go to sleep while I read something else.

The unwinding seems to help him go to sleep more quickly.

Someone sits with DD (3), too, though in her case a story CD sends her off while the Responsible Adult reads!

That's interesting sanquhar - DD1 has settled much better since we moved DD2 into the room (at around 5-6 months old). DD2 doesn't by any stretch of the imagination sleep through the night so it is bit like musical beds here, but DD1 sleeps very very well now.

it was a miracle cure. no screaming tears(from me) and went to bed 7pm like a dream!

we had a very quiet celebration that night!

DS needed us to stay until he was asleep for years...I think it wasn't until he wasn't until he was 8 or 9 and was sharing a bedroom with his younger brother that we didn't need to lie with him. We'd tried everything when he was younger, sitting by his bed, sitting a little bit further away every night, etc but he just needed us.

We used to lie with DS2, just because we'd got into the habit with DS1, but I think he'd have been fine, it was us on automatic pilot. He did once ask why the babysitter didn't snuggle him to sleep.

Luckily DC 3 was happy to just go go sleep by herself.....there's no way I could have been in three beds at once!

Please don't worry, ForEverythingAReason- laying down to sleep with a 22 week old is perfectly natural and doesn't mean that they will need to you to do it when they're five

We were holding hands, pretending to be asleep, lying on the floor, crawling out in all fours etc. with DD2 for two and a half years before DP decided to press the fuck it button and waved a cheery goodnight before heading downstairs. The little bugger fell asleep straight away, and we haven't looked back- that was seven months ago.

press the fuckit button

Thanks tether, that's reassuring!