Prolonged crying

[auberginefrog]

Just curious as I can't seem to find an answer - how long is "prolonged" crying? I'm not trying to do CIO or anything but I usually have the wee one crying alone at some stage in the day - while I'm in the shower or hanging up the washing for example as otherwise I couldn't get anything done. Just hoping I'm not ruining her trust in me really

(She cries even when in the bathroom with me and other half works away often so will always have to leave her for reasons of hygiene!)

She cries like mad on being out to bed and I'm wondering if it's because she feels she's being abandoned although we stay until she's sleeping.

What do you all think?

How old is your baby/child?

This could be separation anxiety, a natural development phase that you have to help and support your child through.

There will be no definitive answer to what "prolonged crying" is. I think it is natural for a parent to want their child to cry as little as possible and so will seek to solve whatever causes the crying as quickly as possible. That doesn't mean immediately. But equally it doesn't usually mean ignoring crying on a whim.

When she is being put to bed, do you think it would help if you held her or fed her to sleep?

I'd do whatever makes her stop tbh. Crying = not happy, I'd have to respond.

Should have explained properly sorry - she is 5 months and will cry even when held/fed/rocked until taken out of the bedroom at night despite obvious tiredness - same for all naps until she exhausts herself I've tried all known baby sleeping techniques except cry it out as I don't think I could.

Just wondering if the crying at other points in the day is affecting the sleeping. For example I'll put her in the baby gym she'll be happy and then go for a shower come back and she'll be screaming - can't seem to avoid this scenario

Oh love. This sounds very normal tbh. It is so hard.

A lot of babies seem to start getting teething pain around this time. No sign of teeth but they are pushing up through their gums so it must feel a bit sore.

It doesn't sound like you are doing anything wrong except perhaps stressing too much, and trying to 'solve' the problem when really it's just a baby being a baby.

I've found the easiest thing is to roll with it. Don't let it phase you because it will get easier, well, it'll get easier for a bit then harder again and round in circles till they pretty much grow up

You sound like a lovely caring Mum.

Mine came with me into the bathroom tbh - it was easier all round! As long as they are safe then you're Ok to take them in with you.

Thanks so much pispcina - you're right it maybe is teething as she is dribbling like mad - will try some dentinox or something and see if that helps her

Yes it's Ok to give calpol if she is really hot, too - or can't calm down. I find I give it maybe once in a blue moon for teething but still worth doing - you'll know if she needs some pain relief.

Otherwise sucking (dummy/milk) does help with the pain I think.

Good luck xx