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anyone else's toddler taking ages to drop off???

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DuchessOfWeaseltown · 04/05/2015 21:02

Is it a summer thing??!

I only ask because I remember having a not dissimilar issue with DD last spring/summer when she was 15/16 months, she'd just take up to an hour, sometimes even more, to drop off...

Now she is 2 and a bit and it is a nightmare getting her to go to sleep at night. Average of an hour and MULTIPLE visits back into her room for 'water' (which she doesn't really need iyswim, it's just another way to get me to go back in), 'kisses'. 'tuck me in', 'need mummy etc etc'. She doesn't get distressed as such but she starts to if I don't go.

It took a long time to get her to be a good sleeper in her cot and we did it all through v gentle gradual withdrawal so I don't want to destroy all those good associations by letting her cry in there now.

fwiw until this past episode (ever since clocks changed) she was (after all that gradual withdrawal work when she was 1ish) an amazing sleeper, would drop off happily by herself in her cot about 20 mins after I left the room.

Is this a developmental thing, too, maybe...? As well as the lighter evenings...?

We have moved her bedtime back so that she is going into her cot around 7.30 instead of 6.45/7. In an ideal world it would therefore mean she was asleep (without all the goings-in!) at 8pm.

I fear we may also need to look at her nap length/timing too (dreading this) but it's hard to know if this is the main cause of the problem, nap timing/length was working brilliantly until clocks changed!!

She naps from 1pm until 3pm and I have to wake her from deep sleep at that point!!

Should I shorten her nap or make it earlier? Might that help??

She was 2 in March so I know many begin to drop their nap around this age BUT she still really really needs a decent nap, even if 2 hours may be too much. Without a good nap she gets overtired and begins to wake earlier and earlier in the mornings, and becomes impossible in the afternoons.

Any advice much much appreciated!!

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DuchessOfWeaseltown · 04/05/2015 21:03

Oh, God, sorry, just seen there is a thread already up about a 2.2 year old taking an hour to get to sleep!!! Will read it for general advice... clearly am not alone in this!!

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Ifyourawizardwhydouwearglasses · 04/05/2015 21:13

Mine has been exactly the same since the clocks changed. He's 2.6 and has always been a reliable 7-7 sleeper until now.

Just spent a small fortune on blackout blinds so watch this space....

DuchessOfWeaseltown · 04/05/2015 21:23

ugh, sorry ifyou'reawizard... it's a pain, isn't it?
That said, DD was godawful at sleeping til she was 13 months ish, I had 13 months of hell with it so it's probably silly of me to complain when things are fundamentally ok (ie she sleeps all night once she's actually gone to sleep, and after an early waking problem we didn't crack until she was almost 2, she now sleeps to a respectable 6.30am)
There are black-out curtains in her room (ie the very very heavy lined ones, with a thick blind behind them) so not much light gets it... I wonder if it's something more to do with their circadian rhythms, more than necc the actual light iyswim?
Am thinking may be wise to cap her nap at 90 mins anyway, and see if that helps.

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smellsofsick · 04/05/2015 21:24

We just had this with DD2(2). She was awake for up to two bloody hours just chatting and singing.

Sounds a bit drastic but I cut her nap from two hours to one and a half: 1.30-3pm. Felt a bit guilty but overall she gets two hours more sleep in total. She's down at 7 and I have to wake her up for 7.30. She's a happy little thing so I think it was the right decision.

DuchessOfWeaseltown · 04/05/2015 21:31

smellsofsick, that doesn't sound drastic... sounds sensible!!
I have been Googling this now and it seems a not uncommmon issue around this age, they're not remotely ready to drop a nap but they maybe don't need that lovely 2 hour stretch... someone elsewhere has written that what they really love is to be on a sort of Meditterean schedule where they stay up late, wake early and then have a gorgeous long siesta in middle of day to set them up for... another late night! Which is all when and good if you're all on holiday in Greece but not remotely sustainable if (like me) you have to work in the evenings and can't be faffing until 9pm getting an increasingly overtired toddler to GO TO BLOODY SLEEP. And then dealing with the grumps the next morning, ruining all activities, playgroup etc, because they're exhausted and craving their lovely long nap.
I hate to do it because I LOVE that long stretch in middle of the day, but I think I need to try your tip of 90 mins instead of 2+ hours and see how we get on.
Thank you!!

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DuchessOfWeaseltown · 04/05/2015 21:31

All WELL and good, not when and good... !!

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