Comparing babies

[auberginefrog]

Anyone else dread baby groups because everyone else looks gorgeous has a perfectly turned out baby who is in a wonderful mood and sleeps through the night? Seriously am I the only one round here with a non sleeping baby? Just needed to vent there

Sometimes you find that the Mums who look the most in control can be the ones who are struggling the most. Most babies do wake, it's what they are programmed to do although I know that's not much help

Aubergine I totally know what you mean. I try so hard not to compare but it's hard not to. I used to hate it when dd cried as all the other babies cooed contentedly or slept. I sure how old your little one is not mine still wakes at least twice a

Whoops trigger happy. ..twice a night. I think the hardest is when people who have been blessed with good sleepers imply that it is something they have done to make them that way. Yes, long term some things are helpful and others less so but sleep is unfortunately not as simple as do a, b and c and the result will be a baby who sleeps through!

Yep, I'm attending a baby group at the moment. 3 of the 7 babies there (all under 4 months) sleep through and the ones that don't wake once. Mine is the eldest and still wakes two or 3 times with no sign of changing. Hey ho.

Having said that, my baby is gorgeous and perfectly turned out, it's me that's a disheveled mess.

I thought I had a brilliant chilled out baby until I attended one of those meetings. There were 3 EBF babies around same age as DS who slept through the bastards made me try to change his baby lead routine into something more strict. DS retaliated by waking up 3 times instead of 2 during the night. I've stopped this nonsense. Now I stay at home and play candy crush to pro level which gives me more satisfaction.

DS is 8 months. Doesn't sleep through, it's not happened once. When I get told by other mums there 'my baby has slept through since she was 3 days old' I just want to cry

He's usually the only baby that is sick all over something or the only one that gets over tired and cries

But I want to high 5 myself for managing to get us both fed and dressed and out of the house to get to the bloody groups by 9am though

Both of mine slept through 7-7 at about 12 weeks. Most certainly didn't last. My 3yr old wakes sometimes even now and I won't even talk about the 1yr old.

If it's any consolation mine is 17 months, still doesn't sleep through the night and I'm still a dishevelled mess! Thought id have got the hang of this parenting malarkey by now...

I met up with some old friends yesterday. I bounced DS2 (5mo) for 40mins in carrier before he finally passed out. My friend out his DD (21 mo) into stationary buggy in the shade and she WENT TO SLEEP!!!

WTF??!!

My DS slept well some nights, terribly others, but he is was still the one screeching, grabbing at the coffee cups and bouncing all over the place while the other babies cooed quietly on mummy's lap.

Meh. Where's the fun in a quiet, compliant baby? My boy is spirited But seriously I do love his curious nature (most of the time).

How old is your DC? If there is one thing I have learned it's that sleep isn't something thats achieved, it ebbs and flows for most babies so great sleepers now, can become the non-sleepers later.

Ah thanks so much guys feel heaps better now - wee one is 4 mo and quite refluxy so rare to have matching non sicky outfit on me or her bit she is quite fun (especially when upright and when being jiggled all the time!!) the sleep will come when she's ready I guess I just need to stop listening to other people gloating...

Motherhood is a long game. Let go now. Wait till you get onto crawling, walking, eating, drawing, phonics....It is endless.