11 month old won't let me settle her at bedtime but DH can

[Booshola]

I don't know if this is a phase but recently my 11 mo refuses to let me settle her and put her to bed at night and screams blue murder, however the moment she goes into DH arms she calms down and will go to sleep. I try to do exactly what he does. It is beginning to really depress me as I feel that as her mum I should be able to settle her. I can find lots of posts about mums being the only ones who can put their babies to bed but not the other way round. Surely I can't be the only one?
I'm not sure if it's connected but recently stopped bf before bed and giving her a bottle of formula so that she is used to it when I return to work and she has bottles during the day (I still bf if she wakes overnight). She takes the bottles really well.
We have a nice relationship although she has never been a very cuddly baby and she doesn't really cry at any other time unless she's having a strop.
Has anybody got any advice or reassurance they can give?! DH sometimes works away and I am dreading not being able to get her to bed, and it breaks me heart to have her screaming in my arms and feeling useless.

All of my children have gone through these phases in both ways. Sometimes only Mummy will do. Sometimes only Daddy will do. It swings one way, settles on either parent being fine for a while, then swings the other way.

The phases do pass. Could you and DH share bedtime and do it together for a while? This might ease your daughter out of this phase. I would imagine the change from breast to bottle will be much of the cause of this phase. It will pass.

Thanks it makes me feel hopeful that it is just a phase.
We do sort of do bedtime together, we all go up and get bath ready and then I feed her but we don't do the actual going to bed bit together so will give that a try and see if helps.

it will definitely be a phase. Just let your dp do it without fuss.

Yes completely normal.
My 14mo DD is in her "dada" phase now, only he can bathe, feed, get her to sleep without ensuing a meltdown.

Does she call for your Dh at night as well? Seems the perfect chance for you to have a decent nights sleep whilst he tends to her

Seriously it does make you feel shit the first time it happens, but it is a phase. She will revert back to just wanting you pretty soon

As others have said, it's just a phase. My ds has often taken turns with us, it did hurt a little bit at first, but rest assured, it will soon be your turn again.

I know you're upset, but my first thought was: Result!!
You can do something more interesting while your dp puts her to bed

Thanks everybody you've made me feel so much better. I've coped with most of the ups and downs of my first baby until now and I think you're right it's because it just feels like a sudden rejection. I really should just make the most of the free time while it lasts!

Glittertwinkletoes - sadly no she is quite happy to be bf back to sleep by me overnight (another work in progress) and if he does go in and get her back to sleep she always wakes up quite quickly again!