Shall I leave well alone?

[Arkkorox]

Or try and put a routine in?

Dd has always slept well which is why I'm reluctant to rock the boat. She's 4.5 months old. First few nights she did 11ish-5 then we had a phase of 3.30am-10am and gradually its worked its way back to 9:30/10 - 7/8 with a feed sometimes anywhere between 4:30 and 6.

We do have a Bath/story/bed sort of routine but it doesn't make a blind bit of difference if we do it or don't, she will only nap for 30 mins or so if it's before 9.

If she's sleeping through shall I just leave well alone and hope her bedtime just gets earlier as it seems to have been doing? It's making an evening alone with Dp out a bit impossible as bedtime falls at an odd point!

Leave alone she's already in a good routine she'll move her bedtime earlier by herself as she gets older ie she'll give you the tired signals earlier therefore you'll get her ready for bed earlier. Can you get a babysitter say 1 night every week or every other week to put her to bed so you can your partner can have some couple time either going for a quick drink or a meal or even an evening walk now the weather is getting nicer.

Yeah that's what I'm thinking, she's moved it from midnight ( at 8 weeks) forward by half an hour every few weeks so I guess I just need to wait it out!

Not too keen on getting someone else to put her to bed (yes PFB!)

It'll do you good trust me

Watching this with interest!

DD is 12w and currently falls asleep on me around 10.30pm. We do dream feed around 11.30 when we go up, and then she'll sleep till 4.30 on a bad night, or 5.30/6 on a good. Dream feed again and back down till around 8/8.30.

This fits perfectly with our sleep but we have no evenings together and I'm haunted by the idea that she "should" go to sleep around 7.30 when everyone else's babies seem to

That's what I was like but in the end if everyone else's babies go To sleep in the evening and are up half the night when yours sleeps for decent blocks what's better!! We don't get much time together yet but then we get evenings like this when she fell asleep at 7, fed at 8 still asleep, dreamfeed at 9 and is snoring her head off!