how long is too long with CIO

[Lunalu14]

Hi

I have just started doing CIO and my baby has been screaming since 7pm it is now half 9. I have been in there every 5 mins but I feel like this is too long?
How long is too long?

Thanks

How old is your baby and what are you doing when you are "in there" every 5 minutes?

I would say 2 and a half hours is way too long, whatever baby's age.

Have you considered controlled crying (but only if your baby is more than about 9/10 months) ?

What age is your baby? What do you do when you go in?

I did cc when dds 10/11 months, andused to have a ' script' for what I did when I went in. But longer than 45 mins (checking every 2, 5, 10, 15 mins) and it's too long I'd say. Do a reset (repeat bed time milk/story routine and start afresh)?

CIO is when you put them down and don't go back in at all so they exhaust themselves to sleep.

What you're describing is the wrong way to go about CC which is different to CIO.

Firstly how old is your baby.

From a previous post of OP's, the baby is 9mo. That is way too long to have a baby crying. I don't know how people can cope with CC, I could never be strong enough!

I think you need to cuddle and reassure your baby. That is far too long. Baby must be exhausted.

Baby is 9 months. When I go in there I lay her back down and say bedtime now then leave again until the next time? This is what the health visitor has said to do but she said she would prob b crying for about ur an hour and a half max

Far too long at any age.

Do you have a bedtime routine. . The same one every night?

Erm...why do you have two threads going? According to your other one she fell asleep an hour ago after an hour of crying...

hmm

Have you given her a drink? She must be really thirsty after crying for so long.

Don't listen to your hv. What do you want to do? What feels right?

rather.

I would do something a bit more gentle like gradual retreat before trying something like controlled crying. That in my mind should be a last resort and for babies over 12 months. Crying techniques don't work for all babies.

I thought she fell asleep but she had just gone quiet hence the new post.

I've given in anyway and got her out I didn't want to do this is in.the first place To be honest but when you have a baby that wakes you every hour it's hard.

Thanks anyway

Yes I've heard of the gradual retreat I will look in to it thank you

Ignore your HV, that's is far too long. Your baby won't always wake up every hour but until she grows out of it put some coping mechanisms in place to help you cope. Do you have a partner that can help in the night? Or to let you sleep for an hour in the morning? Can you nap when the baby naps? She is little and she needs you, it won't be forever, please don't leave her to cry herself to sleep.

I know where you are coming from, my little one is 12months now but we have had times of waking every hour. It was worst when teething and around the 6 month and 9 month mark. In my opinion, sleep is the worst between 8 and 12 months. All I can say is that it does get better. I haven't done any formal training with mine, just tried to gradually encourage him to be more independent at night but never left him to cry or not soothed him if he needs me to. Now we get at least one 4 - 5 hour stretch most nights, he has just improved with age. You will get there but I know it's hard when living it and sometimes you feel so desperate you will try anything, but I don't think crying is the best solution for you both right now.

Hi

Don't worry I agree that was far too long at least now I can say I tried to the health visitor but it just isn't for me.
I have a partner but he works long hours so be doesn't really help at night although sometimes he will get up early with her while I sleep in in the morning.
I Am just going to have to wait till she grows out of it and continue with the routines I have set in place and just hope she gets better
Thanks