How do I get the long stretch os sleep at night time so I can sleep too?

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My 10 week old, ff has settled into a 3 hourly feed schedule, with 1 hours naps, she takes bottles 6am through to 6pm then self settles to sleep 1930 until 6am with a night feed at 3am. (sleeps through until 6am feed)

Is there any way to shift her schedule so it is 8am to 8pm (we all get up at 5am so that would make her night feed my morning). I've tried adding in a dream feed but it didn't help and I've tried edging feeds back 15min a day for the past week and she just self corrects after a few days.

I know I should be happy, but with a FT job and a toddler I'm tired!

Go to bed at 19.30 when she does?

She's doing really well by the sounds of it. At 10 weeks!

I would go to bed early. You've tried shifting her day and it hasn't worked. She will get there - she is just still so tiny.

What't the problem with wakening?

The idea of monophasic sleep ( ie one solid block) is a very modern Western thing. Many humans the world over split their sleep.
If you can get 8 hours sleep a night albeit with a feed in there I don't know why you should be tired. Are you aneamic?

You are expecting far too much from a 10 week old.
My babies were feeding every three hours at this stage.

I'm afraid I can't even get my 8 month old to change from 6pm-5am (with 1 get up normally) to 7pm-6am so doubt your 10 week old can...

Wow that does sound pretty awesome for a 10 week old! I would be too scared to change anything in case it disrupted things. Sorry no constructive advice!

Not sure you will get much sympathy here OP- your baby's schedule sounds easy.

She sounds like she's doing fantastic! You are approaching a growth spurt phase at 12 weeks, so things may change then anyway. If im honest I would just be going to bed when she does and not risking trying to change things in case it all went tits up (my ds didn't sleep through until he was 2 )

I can't go to bed at 19.30, toddler goes to sleep around 20.00 and then I need to catch up with housework and sometimes work, try to get to bed by 2100 most nights. Don't think I'm anemic (may use up the last of my pre vits though and see it is helps). As I said I think its the toddler (just through the 18month sleep regression himself) and the FT job which is making me tired.

I'm not trying to reduce her feeds and didn't in anyway force the pattern she is in, we fed on demand. She sucks her fingers so self setteled from day one - I know we are lucky on that one especially.

Maybe I got just got too lucky with my first child to see how well she is doing already, thanks for putting it into perspective.

autumbra I'm not looking for sympathy I was after some practical ideas.
I didn't know it was a competition of who's baby sleeps the worse and only the worse are allowed ot post here.

Tbh your baby is developing and sleeping perfectly normally. Ten weeks is generally young for prolonged stretches of sleep. My sd didn't manage until she was 3 years old!

A baby, or a toddler or a full job is fairly exhausting, let alone all 3! Have you got a partner - can they help with the housework?

10 weeks postnatal is soon to be back at work f/t, particularly if you need to bring work home. Can you get a cleaner for a few weeks to help with housework?

Good luck with the sleeping, but I honestly think that your DD is doing brilliantly well for her age. Are you in the UK? I find that the clock change always changes my dc's sleep patterns.

Thanks, sorry for snapping, time of the month and SPD still playing up.

OH also works and helps with housework, but his time is mostly taken up with bringing in wood, sorting the log burners, all the hovering and walking the 2 dogs as I can't manage those things just yet.

We'd so love a cleaner but live quite remotely and can't get one to come out to us even if we pay the travel time. Normally just live in sqauller but we have guest coming on Sat for a week.

You know as I write this - I'm realising the 10weeks olds sleep is not even part of the problem!

I'm glad you're feeling more positive OP. Rural living can't help either! Beautiful though it can be, it's not easy. We're now in the centre of a village, but our previous house was properly in the sticks and all heating and hot water was from a woodburner with back boiler. When we bought the house we're in now, my main requirement was "mains gas"!

You sound like you have a tonne on. I hope you manage a bit of time off over Easter to enjoy your dc and your countryside.

Thanks bike ive a week off now and guests i thimk the break in routine will do me good.

My 11 week old wakes every 2 hours having previously slept 6-8 hour stretches. Not meaning to sound negative but enjoy it whilst it lasts. We've increased from 45 min wakings to 2 hourly in the last couple of weeks. Its a joke.