1yo started to wake in night, feel like I am going mad, ADVICE PLEASE!!

[Alexandersmummy]

Hello, my DS is 13months and has always been a good sleeper until now, he regulary wakes up in the night now sometimes for half an hour and other times 3 hours or even beter not going back to sleep at all!!
We have a good bedtime routine, wind down, wash, nappy change, pjs, cuddles then bottle in dark room and he goes off to sleep everytime but always wakes normally in the early hours. I've tried giving him a bottle when he wakes and while this stops the screaming it doesn;t make him go to sleep. I've tried playing with him, letting him cry (although i find it hard) Basically I don't know what to do, I'm a first time mum, my DH "doesn't do nights" so it's all left to me and I also work 4 days a week and I feel exhausted, sometimes I just want to cry or shout at my DS for not sleeping, but I know this is not the answer so take a deep breath and try again!
Sorry to rant on, I know most mums suffer the same dreaded sleep depravation, but God its sooo bloody hard!!! They don't tell you this as ante natal! God if they did we'll all stop having kids ANY ADVICE WELCOME

alex mum what is the day pattern like, imo its an overall pic of the 24hrs thats affects the night?

Does he eat well before bed? Have you tried putting him to bed later?

How is the sleep pattern in the day?

Hi, he eats like a horse in the day, 3 meals and healthy snacks in etween, we get him up at about 7.30/8am breakfast dressed etc, and then he comes to work with me, I'm lucky as I have a play area for him and work with him next to me. He plays on his own, then with me and his dad (we all work together) has a nap in the morning for about 30 mins, then lunch, then in the afternoon we try to go out for fresh air normally to the post office! (I sell on ebay for my parents for a living!) I try to spend lots of quality time with him, reading, playing games etc.
He goes to bed at 7.30pm

Ask your dh why he wanted a baby if 'he doesnt do nights'. He cant just stick him in a box becouse hes tired. he should take his turn, maybe somone else putting him back will help. (or at least let you get some sleep)
Sorry if that sounds stroppy but i hate it when men do things like that.

I'd definitely try a later bedtime. Use some of his sleeping time for more sleep yourself.

does he only nap for 30mins from being up at 7.30 til his bedtime?

I'd be interested to hear how you're getting along now Alexandersmummy. My sons a year old next week and has slept v well (11-12hrs a night)for several months bar illness/teething and has just started waking up in the night again. His patterns not changed, he eats more than ever and naps for 30-45mins in the morning and 1-1.30 hrs in the afternoon. It's v hard to adjust back to the lack of sleep and I hope its not a long term thing.
I read somewhere that around a year old they can start waking again in the night when they are learning to walk/talk. Has yours reached any big developement milestones since the waking started?