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At a complete loss!

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Riri85 · 16/03/2015 07:27

Hi all,
Have posted here before when my LO was going through the 4 month sleep regression and things seemed to get better but in the last couple of weeks everything has gone back to square one!
Basically LO is 5 and a half months and is waking on average 3-4 times a night. We are at a complete loss as to why because as far as we can tell we are doing all the things we are 'supposed' to do.
To give you an idea-
We do not feed/rock/jig/shhh to sleep, she does not have a dummy to go to sleep either (she used to but we were concerned this was the cause of her waking). We have used CC with her to try and help stop the wake ups and have been going in to settle after set intervals-this appeared to work for a short period and we thought we were onto a winner but it would appear not!
We put her down in her cot awake after a feed then she usually goes to sleep happily.
But then she wakes anywhere between 3 and 4 times a night and it's taking its toll!
We roughly follow the EASY routine. The structure of our day goes-
Up for the day between 6/half 6 (milk feed followed by baby porridge).
Activity playing with toys/on playmat.
Down for a nap maximum of 2 hours later.
3x Naps for about 1hr 30
Milk feed every 4 hours.
Nap every 2 hours.
Late afternoon has some puréed veg.
Bath, massage and down for the night between 6.30/7.
Dream feed at 11pm.
Now she seems to have fallen into a pattern of waking around 10pm 1am 3am and 5am! We do not feed her unless she has gone roughly a four hour stretch after her last feed, so only if it's after 3am. However this doesn't seem to make any difference as she is up again at 5!
Please can someone tell me if there is anything glaringly obvious we are doing wrong? Or if not please just hold my hand and tell me it's all going to be ok and one day I can have a full nights sleep?ð???
Sitting here with matchsticks in my eyes awaiting any responses!

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Riri85 · 16/03/2015 07:28

Wow that was long! Thank you if you persevered with reading it!

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icklekid · 16/03/2015 07:43

No advice but sympathy could she be teething? Ds is pretty good except for when teething when sleep goes to pot! Ibuprofen helps decrease wake ups because of this. Was she showing all signs of being ready to wean before 6 months? Wondered if this might be part of it?

Riri85 · 16/03/2015 08:11

Thanks ickle-it's possible it could be teething but can't see or feel any sign of a tooth?
She was ready in the sense that she is able to sit upright and can hold her head up well but to be honest she is not a massively 'hungry' baby. Have mentioned to my OH whether we should just stop giving her solids for now and wait until 6 months! He disagrees but think I may just take the upper hand here and stop giving them to her until she's 6 months in s couple of weeks!x

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Needsweetstosurvive · 16/03/2015 08:18

Sometimes you can do everything right and still they wake. It is normal for babies to wake and normal for them to need you for reassurance in the night. It doesn't last forever, just give her what she needs and try not to over think. It is exhausting being a parent but you will get more sleep eventually!

ElphabaTheGreen · 16/03/2015 08:21

Some babies sleep, some do not. You might be able to nudge sleep in the direction you want, but ultimately there's nothing you can do to change their pre-disposition to sleep.

Yours is a perfect illustration of how babies' sleep has absolutely nothing to do with how you manage them because, on paper, you've done the 'right' thing by avoiding sleep props. You've even tried CC without success, so she's just one of those babies. You're not doing anything wrong, she's just not a natural sleeper.

It'll get better eventually, then just when you think she's a brilliant sleeper something else will happen to turn her sleep crap again. In the scheme of things, she could be far worse (I would love as few as three to four wake-ups...), but it will pass, and tired as you are now, when you look back, it won't seem like that long at all. Smile

Riri85 · 16/03/2015 08:34

Thank you Needsweets and Elphaba-I think in the back of my mind I know we are doing things 'right' and that there isn't going to be a magic cure that's going to make her suddenly sleep through the night-I just think I am in denial as if I admit there is nothing that can be done it kind of terrifies me!Confused But thank you for your replies (sorry to hear you're also having a hard time with sleeping Elphaba).

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