Just when you think things can't get any worse...

[Flamebat]

So we moved DS into DD's room because he always seemed to sleep better the further away he was from me (and the milk)...

He is waking MORE

I know he doesn't need feeding any more than every 4 hours, but he is waking every two, and I resort to feeding him just to get some sleep.

Do I try some sort of controlled crying?? We improved things in our room when I tried a sort of combined pu/pd and inching away approach, but I know that if I lurk too long in there I am likely to wake DD - I don't know if she'd go back to sleep or if she would kick off wanting another bottle etc.

Maybe I should do it and if she wakes just give her the sodding bottle going with the theory that if it needs doing for a few nights whilst I fix him, it isn't really an issue.

ARGH! Just thinking aloud here really... I dunno what I should be doing/want to do/have the energy to do.

I feed him because its easy when I'm tired, but its just getting me MORE tired.

sorry to hear you are knackered! I haven't really got any advice...I bf..and did just feed to shut them up...or get them to sleep....was knackered but decided might be easier than waking up fully...settling again etc.
Bump for you hope it gets easier soon

We have the same thing here flamebat. DS2 can sleep happily for 2-3 hours on a day nap but when he comes to night sleeping he's a little monster!

What I've recently started doing is giving him formula milk from a cup at bedtime.(he is 17 months and I am 33 weeks PG, so I'm wanting to stop BF him!!)
We have some music on quitely and stay with him in the DS's bedroom. The first couple of nights were hell, he really screamed, but now we are getting much better. I'm finding 5 nights out of 7 he willingly lays down and drinks his warm milk.
I stroke / rub his back gently and he goes off, and DS1 and me talk quietly about the day (this also seems to help DS2, the fact its not deadly quiet.

He does still end up coming in our bed on a night, but I don't let him suckle, he gets another cup of milk. I've found that at first he was drinking the 5oz of milk, but now hes just falling asleep again! (which proves to me the little monkey was just looking for a quick fix of boob!) Me or DH then take him back to his cot (if we don't fall asleep!)

Obviously, I can understand you may not want to give him formula, but i think it has really helped my DS to know a way to get milk other than mummy!! p.s. we used this nice trainer cup

I hope this has helped and I've not just prattled on.. which I probbaly have.

Oh flame. I think you might need to take a leaf out of my book and go for cc. You've seen how it's transformed me from a totally knackered sleep obsessed mummy to someone who actually now gets some evening to herself not in bed! Have you read Ferber's book - do you want me to lend you my copy?

I'm not sure what you do with B during this - could she sleep in with dh for a week and you sleep on the sofa? I know it's not ideal, but one worse week leading to many better weeks has to be worth it surely?

let DH get up to him for every other one - then he has no chance of getting milk and may learn it is not worth waking up.

Hugs from one sleep deprived mum to another ((((flame)))). No answers for you I am affraid as I am strugling with what to do with my ds as well.