Won't sleep in own bed

[MandyD]

A month ago we moved from a 2 bedroom flat where my son had his own room to a 1 bed where he has to share with us now. He's just turned 3.

At the other flat he liked to fall asleep in the double bed in his room then I'd transfer him to his toddler bed (bad habit which evolved over time I suppose). He still goes to sleep in the big bed (ours!) now and I put him in his own bed when I go to bed.

But now he's taken to getting in bed with me in the early hours which DH complains bitterly about. I don't feel I can easily put him back to bed as he'd cry and wake DH if he wasn't awake already...I feel I can't really win here, any suggestions?

He may be a bit young for this but he might respond to "if you stay in your own bed, like a big boy,you'll get a special treat" eg favourite breakfast, trip out T.V. You could try it for one night and move slowly on to "stay in bed all week. Good Luck

Your best bet would be to just let him cry it out for a few days. It may wake your husband but in a few days he will understand that he cannot keep geting into your bed. Sometimes I guess we have to put up with things for a little bit so it will get better in the long run. Like ignoring temper tantrums even though they drive us crazy at the time. They always subside. If you dont end the situation he'll never get in his own bed and stay there. My son is 17 mo and he started getting up crying one night and no matter what we did he would not go back to sleep. He is in his crib right now in our room. Lack of bedrooms in our home. We got so frustrated that we put him in our bed. Big Mistake! The rest of the week he cried thru out the night. We did it again and he slept again all night. It was really hard sleeping with a 17 mo. He was all over us. I told my mum and she said I was starting something that was going to be hard to reverse. He started to get used to sleeping with us. I decided to stop right away. He cried off and on for a few nights but eventually got the picture that he cant sleep with his parents. Now we are back to normal. Good Luck.

If DH complains he should do the sorting out!

Sorry to be so blunt but seriously men irritate me so much with this. We worry about our kids not sleeping in case it wake up our partners! I mean they ar eparents too. So if your DH has a problem with your son coiming into your bed, he should haul his a**e up and put your son in his own bed. A few nights of him doing this 10 times a night will have one of two effects

1. Your son will sleep in his own bed and daddy will be happy
2. Your DH will give up complaining bitterly (he'll be too knackered) and you and your son will be happy.

After 3 yrs and 2 kid I can count on the fingers of one hand how many times my DH got up in the night (and they were totally BF either). He still doesn't hear them now!

Crunchie, know what you mean. My favourite mornings were the ones where DH would wake up and say, brightly, "they slept well last night, didn't they?" when I'd been up three or four times. I love my teenagers - I have to wake them up now...