Just so confused...

[Cooper11111]

My little on is 9 weeks (3 weeks corrected) and I wish I could just enjoy the cuddles without worrying. She falls asleep on me about now, self settles in the night and wakes at 2am for a feed then generally sleeps til 6 then again til 9. This is good right??? I must admit this time is hard because she is woken by wind every ten minutes or so, therefore bedtime lasts forever. I feel like I'm constantly worrying about the holding thing but should I be? Some sites say you can't spoil a baby and some say ALWAYS put down awake (is this practical?). Have any of you got any experiences to make me feel more relaxed e.g. You held your babies to fall asleep while they were little and they learnt to settle on their own at a later stage (3-4months or so?)

I tried to remind myself that I had my babies for roughly 9 months with me at all times and then suddenly, we were two entities. your little one is still little and this will not last long. You are in the difficult time. You are tired, stressed and everything has changed. It is nothing like in the books. My first, I 'tried' to do the gina ford thing and gave up. My second, I just went with it. I slept with my daughter, carried her everywhere and did not worry. Do babies really sleep through the night? they may have moments of time but then things change and they may be up again. I hope I am not sounding negative, I just want you to know that it is okay to hold your baby and not worry what others say, but what is right for you and your family. this is why we have maternity leave so that you can be with your child. Okay, I am rambling a bit, but know you are not alone and it will get easier.

Dont worry about it at this stage. DD fell asleep on me until 13 months . I never tried to do otherwise until then, just enjoyed the cuddles. She's 15 months now and I can just pop her in her cot awake with Ewan the sheep on and she goes to sleep. It took one night for her to get used to going to sleep on her own and not on me.
9 weeks is still so tiny. Google the 4th trimester.

Thankyou, I do keep trying to tell myself this. She is only 3 weeks developmentally too as 6 weeks prem!! I think google is the devils work and scares me into thinking she should magically sleep on her own. Coincidentally she has just screamed for 1.5 hours !! But fingers crossed I'll get a 5 hour stretch now. By little boy was a shocking sleeper until we sleep trained at five months, and although if it all goes tits up I know can rely on that, I would actually like to manage it myself and not get to that stage x

My lo is 12wks, and I have not once settled him down to sleep while he is wide awake. No point! All you get is a mad baby.
He falls asleep either being breastfed or swayed/rocked or he daynaps in the sling . I don't care what Google or books say. He's my baby i know how to get him to sleep and it's not by plonking him in his cot!

Perhaps it's the potential consequence that scares me. Whilst I don't mind doing that now, I don't want to be still doing it the months ahead- which to be fair this forum is full of. Maybe I'm not selfless enough if I'm worried about it so early.

We rocked our baby to sleep until about 4.5 months, we did 2 nights of sleep training and haven't rocked him to sleep since x

Please don't worry. Babies can't actually sleep through or self settle till around 4-6 months (those that do are the exception). It's something that is developmental. And by then you can consider some sleep training if you feel there's a problem. But children wake in the night - it's what they do. Mine still does now from time to time.

Listen to your heart i say.
I love nothing more than my five month old falling asleep on me but shes already starting to get independant and not want to.
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