New mummy needs advice please

[KJchub]

I know I might seem a bit of a whinger needing help so soon but I'm just not sure what to do.

My DS is nearly two weeks old & we have been pretty lucky in that he will settle in his Moses basket next to my side of the bed. The issue is two fold: he seems to have really bad wind which we're trying to treat with Dentinox & means that he has problems feeding especially at night. He also seems to sleep fitfully at night, grunting a lot. I'll often think he needs a feed & get ready to fetch him out the basket but then he's sound asleep, only to grunt & start making noise minutes later. My sleep is constantly disrupted as a result & when he doesn't feed well it means that I'm really sleep deprived.

Is it normal for him to grunt & make so much noise at night? He seems to sleep silently during the day. Should I try to stop him sleeping during the day so he sleeps more deeply at night? Should I try to feed him even if he falls asleep after chewing his fists?

Sorry for all the questions, just feeling really inadequate at the moment & can't sleep during the day so am exhausted.

Thank you.

You're not a whinger at all!

My boy was always more windy at night and I would wake at every grunt. I actually ended up moving his cot further away from the bed so I wasn't so sensitive to every noise.

Is he ff or breast fed? My boy fed every 2 hours to begin with, he was bf. He eventually stretched to 3. I fed on demand tbh as it helped to improve my supply. He was clearly getting enough as he had plenty of wet nappies and was gaining weight well.

There's a lot of conflicting advice about on feeds and routines. Do what feels right for your child. They haven't read the books

You're doing great. The lack of sleep and hormones made me a bit crazy to begin with. I even got up and ironed shirts one night as I was on edge and expecting him to wake. He of course didn't and I could've been asleep!

Don't stop his naps in the day btw. Newborns need 18 hours sleep roughly per 24 hrs. I used to keep mine awake for 90 mins max at a time in the day and then pop back to nap each time.

He sounds pretty good really. Just windy like mine was. It improved at about 12 weeks massively for mine.

Thanks for the messages. DS is bf although he has been very grisly the last couple of days so I have topped him up with formula. He's also just decided that he doesn't like his basket very much so no idea what to do! I'm feeding on demand too as not sure how I wouldn't without leaving him to cry which would just be horrid.

I just wish I knew what he wanted!!

The grisly ness may not necessarily be hunger. It's hard as you can't see what they're getting and you can worry they're hungry. Just keep popping him on you, it'll increase your supply.

Mine if they were getting a cold would become unsettled. They couldn't tell me their throat was sore and it was only when the nose started running it would click on why they were unhappy for the last day or so.

You're doing great. Don't doubt yourself

Is it a Moses basket? Mine ended up in a cot quite quickly for similar reasons. But I put the basket in the cot so they'd get used to the view to begin with.

Does that make sense?