Why does everything seem so much worse in the dark??

[Cooper11111]

Who agrees??

So true. What's it for you?

Totally agree! I used to get really upset every evening with my newborn DD, dreading the night but in the morning it seemed illogical.

What's stopping you sleeping OP?

I'm just up for a feed! Totally reasonable and to be expected I know, she just seems to take a while to settle some nights! She went to bed in her cot at 8 (fed at 7 but grizzled a lot after), she woke at midnight so I fed her but again grizzled til 1.30 then she woke again at 3.

She was prem so is only 2.5 weeks corrected age so it's always hard to know what to expect form her! She is technically 8.5 weeks so should be forming habits really but in the other hand she is only 2.5 weeks!! Argh!

How about you two?

I wouldn't expect habits or routine until 3 months, but I agree, everything is harder around 4am.
I guess it's because usually you're alone with your thoughts and no support.

I'm awake listening to DP who isn't snoring for once. Instead he's breathing on me and it's really bloody annoying! He'll be quiet for a bit then catches up and sounds like a steam engine.

Hi Cooper. Hope you got some sleep. I was up with a baby too - DD2 also requiring milk! She fed every three hour last night (she's 13 weeks old) but settled back quickly which is all you can really ask for. It does get easier, honest!

Hi Cheshire! Yes managed some sleep, my biggest issue is the unpredictability! I almost lay there waiting for her to wake so can't sleep when she does. Glad your DD settled well! I know it will get better- I'm not that good with looking into the future! I'm all about the now ha ha xx

I did a stretch from 1:15am with a screaming 5 week old, only sleeping in my arms due to horrendous wind.

I was sobbing by 4am wishing my DH would wake and give me a big cuddle.

A hot shower and i did feel better but today has been crappy.

I was talking to a sleep specialist, last week and the reason that things worry us so much when we wake up in the wee early hours, for any reason, is the fact that the part of our brain responsible for rational thought is still sound asleep.

KateKoom :( sounds awful! Have you had any sleep yet? I had my worst day yesterday by far. DD screamed every minute she wasn't asleep. We finally got her to bed and she was good in the night and is still asleep now, thank goodness. My eyes are sore from crying so much yesterday though!

Hope you all have a better day x

and to everyone.

I'm another who was in tears earlier. DD hasn't slept, except on me, since 2.30am. DP took her for a half hour stretch after I woke him up from spare room in desperation. Sunlight, shower and a half hour kip really helps but there's no way I'm getting out of bed just yet, stuff it

I agree!! I have a 6 month old who has never slept through and we're just all over the place. Some nights he only wakes once, some nights he wakes 6 times, some nights he wants milk, some nights he's not bothered.....the lack of sleep and the not knowing what to expect every night is killing me and I can't sleep well between wake ups so I just lie there thinking 'why am I the only person I know with such a bad sleeper' and sometimes have a wee cry to myself. Then it's morning, I have a cup of tea and get on with my day and it's never as bad.

Isn't it funny that we all think we are the "only ones". I don't know why evolution hasn't sorted his out by now, people would have more children and be healthier if babies were born angels . Also, would save the NHS millions in prescription milk and reflux remedies as these seem to be the fall back diagnoses. On the other hand Infacol, Dentinox and Colief would go out of business x