2 yo never slept thru the night, so desperate for help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[shatteredmumsrus]

My 2 yo has never slept thru the night. I dont know where i have gone wrong. Probably when he was younger. I have been to my GP, health visitors and sleep psycologists with no luck whatsoever. He goes to sleep with no problem on his own, no dummy or bottle, just a comfort blanket. Has a good routine, tea, bath and bed. Usually in bed around 7.30. Last night for example was up at 12.30am crying at the top of his voice. Mommy, Daddy and his brothers name.He throws his comforter and i know he wont sleep without it and so i sometimes go in to pick it up for him(controversial i know).I kept putting his lullaby night light on evry 10 mins til he fell asleep. That took over 40mins. Then he was up again at 2.30 screaming and this was a nightmare. He was still crying after an hour and a half of putting lullaby on etc.He was shouting names and milk, milk, milk!!!He will settle after a bottle of milk most of the time???Not sure of its the milk he likes or the bottle. He drinks squash from his beaker and has just 1 bottle of milk before bed. He loves his milk!Or is it his bottle???Should he still have a bottle?Me and my partner are really struggling with this now. Never had a good nights sleep so far. He cant stay at anyones house because of his bad sleeping. Im at my wits end. Also have a 6yo who lacks my attention because of it. He sleeps wonderfully. And its half term AHHHH. Please someone help me x

This so sounds like ny DS, we ahve had him sleeping through on and off (and easily when he was very little) but just when we think we have it sorted, he starts wakinga gain. Always settles with milk. He has a bottle for bed too whicj ia m reluctant to drop as routine works so well. Last time he was bad I started giving him cold milk (he prefers it warm) in a beaker and eventually he stoppewd waking. Have found the only real way to solve it is to let them cray (buti hate doing it, and thinks it is harder now they can talk!)

Not really any advice there is there? Sorry! (*I am having a nightmare with mine at the moment as just potty trained him and having slept through for a month is now screaming for awee at 3am!)

Gooed Luck!

Ah thanks anyway. I have tried giving him milk in a beaker but he throws it across the room in temper. Wont even attempt to drink it. He will have his milk warm or cold, he just loves it.What a nightmare!

You have my sympathies. My ds is 2.5 and rarely sleeps through the night. Like you I've been to sleep clinics, tried controlled crying and other techniques with little success. Whatever I try works for a few nights, but then something always happens to disrupt the pattern. I would advise dropping the milk even though he'll put up a fight. The last sleep expert I spoke to suggested going into the room at regular intervals and repeating 'it's time for sleep' each time until he falls asleep. Don't say anything else or give in to demands for milk. Give water instead. It helps if you have a dh or dp who can do this to help break the pattern of dependency on seeing you. It's all so exhausting I know, which makes it even harder to deal with. Ds is more settled now that his teeth are all through. Could this be a problem with your ds?

Thanks for reply.Who knows it seems to be one thing or another. I think we just make excuses for them. Teeth, a cold, hungry etc. I give up!