So fucking awful: sleep 18mo

[Cbell]

My DD has always been a difficult sleeper. At best we get a easy bedtime at 7pm then up for the day at 4am. Nothing we do seems to change this pattern.

However, if she wakes in the night it's for 2-3 hours and only CC seems to eventually get her back to sleep..

We've tried co-sleeping, BF, sitting and holding hand, rubbing back. Nothing works in getting her back to sleep.

So it's controlled crying AGAIN. Another night of tears, this happens about once a month, often after illness.

I hate it. I love my child and feel that she has cried too many tears. I feel like a shit, shit parent and I'm sure I wouldn't have done this with my pfb.

Don't be cruel but I feel like her crappy sleep has really damaged our bonding.

I'm sorry, have no words of wisdom but just wanted to offer some support. You are NOT a shit mother, you are doing what is best for you all: she needs this sleep as much as you do!

How long has the prolonged night waking been going on for this time? I ask because ds was like this up until a week or so ago and we have put it down to a sudden massive growth spurt. We noticed a huge difference in his height at the same time as he started taking less time to calm in the night. He still wakes around 2 and we bring him in with us but this week he is going back off quite quickly, whereas before he was just screaming for ages and nothing would calm him.

How was last night for you OP? Hope there was some improvement.