self settling - is it a myth??!

[Monkeybrain10]

My 7 mo will not self settle between sleep cycles. His naps are only ever 35 mins tops. If I give him boob he may do another after. During the evening/night its better - he'll go for mostly 2 hours at a time (if in our bed) but if in cot he'll only go half an hour. If I don't go to him he just ends up screaming til he's all red faced and hysterical.

Any advice please? (I'm weaning him at the moment so he's soon going to have to learn not to use my boob to get him back to sleep! Other people can get him to sleep but with me it's booby or shreaking!)

I read the Sarah Ockwell Smith bullshit article on self settling too.

It's not actually that the science is wrong, it is just that it is twisted in a nonsensical way. What she is saying is that until a child is of a pre-school age, they will find it difficult to settle entirely alone.

No Shit Sherlock.

That's what dummies are for

The pre-school age works about right for when my children were ready to give up the dummy through negotiation with no tears or tantrums. Because by that are they were emotionally ready to self-sooth (ie go to sleep without a prop). Before then, they were not ready and needed a comforter get to sleep.

All of Sarah Ockwell Smith's science could be used as an entirely scientific basis for why dummies should be given to all children from birth to nursery