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17 month old bedtime battles

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UpSheFlew · 24/01/2015 22:35

I'm really hoping some of you can give me some advice. My now 17 month old was a pretty good sleeper until recently. Christmas and New Year have completely screwed up her routine, but I figured she'd soon get back on track. Yet, here we are 3 weeks later and things have gotten worse rather than better.

She would normally nap in the afternoon from 1.00 to 2.30 while either with me or with her childminder. Prior to Christmas, bedtime was around 7pm and she'd sleep through until around 6.30am. Maybe the odd wakening in the night, but nothing major. Since Christmas and as mentioned in my title, bedtime has now become a huge battle.

Whereas previously she would have just lay down in her cot and gone to sleep, she's taken to screaming the place down. I tried letting her cry, checking on her every couple of minutes, but she's been getting herself more and more worked up to the point of nearly getting sick and making things even worse. I've had to take her up from her cot again for another half hour and try again. Most times she'll kick off again and so the cycle continues - into cot, scream house down, out of cot, back downstairs, back upstairs and repeat up to 4 times. Of course, this has started to become a 'game' for her and we're lucky to get her settled before 9 these nights.

The result of this is an overtired toddler every morning and evening and an extremely frustrated mother. So ladies, what to do, what to do?

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lotsofcheese · 24/01/2015 22:41

I think our DD's have been discussing strategies! Mine was a great sleeper, the kind of baby you just put in the cot & off she drifted to sleep. She is a horror now, screaming & wailing every bedtime.

Things I've tried: a musical ceiling light projector to distract her, a cuddle in a chair in the dark in her room to calm her before putting her in the cot. Sitting on the floor next to the bed to reassure her.

None of these are massively successful but they have made it better. I'm hoping it's an "age & stage" thing and will hopefully get better in time or I will shoot myself

UpSheFlew · 24/01/2015 22:44

Oh man I hear you (on the shooting myself bit!). Maybe it is just yet another phase? You seem to have explored all avenues there, fair play to you. How long has she been torturing you this way for? Have you continued to put her in bed at the usual time? Do you lift her or insist she stays in her cot, crying or not? Sorry for so many questions, can you tell I'm approaching the end of my tether here?!

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lotsofcheese · 24/01/2015 23:00

I have a 6 year old too & mostly put them to bed on my own, so I'm not very good at consistency, which is part of the problem too.

Her bed time is usually 7.30/8.00, depending on when her afternoon nap was, but it can be as late as 9pm if she has fallen asleep on the school run.

I try to minimise her crying, as it's not fair on her brother, who gets disturbed & teachers at school said he was tired. So I do a rough version of pick-up-put down. If she is up at night we just bring her into bed so she doesn't wake him up. She settles well in our bed.

She's been like this since June last year - was a model sleeper till we went away on holiday last year & she didn't like the travel cot. She's also super-clingy; she gets very anxious when I leave the room & wails till I get back in, even during the day - and that's been going on for a year.

It's all very wearing. Sorry I don't have many solutions, just sympathy.

UpSheFlew · 24/01/2015 23:05

June last year! Jesus H Christ. God help you. It's a tough old business this parenthood lark, isn't it? Fair play to you managing 2 kids. We'll just have to keep on keeping on and see what happens. Unfortunately, she will not sleep in our bed, has never been interested. Anyway, it can last forever (she says hopefully!). And thank you for the sympathy and solidarity. I hope your wee woman gets back on track soon too, both the sleep and the clingyness.

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UpSheFlew · 24/01/2015 23:14

*can't last forever. Can'T last forever!

Now there's a Freudian slip if ever there were one...

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