Sleeping without his mumma

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My 2 month old will (pretty much) only sleep with me - in a sling or carrier during the day or co-sleeping at night. He will also fall asleep in the car seat or pram sometimes but wakes when it stops moving. He will happily be put down in a swing chair or on a playmat for short periods when awake, but I can't get him to sleep in his cot at all (the cot is in our bedroom, we didn't buy a crib or Moses basket as I thought he'd grow out of it really quickly). I'm fine with the co-sleeping, as is my husband (although my mother in law disapproves ), but what I would like is to be able to spend a little bit of time alone with my husband
I've been trying to put him down in the cot sleepy but not asleep, and I kneel down next to it in the hope he'll fall asleep, but after 15-20 mins he just starts crying so I pick him up. He's EBF and often feeds to sleep at night. He will take a dummy sometimes to fall asleep eg when in car seat, but that doesn't seem to help in the cot.

Any thoughts? TIA

Sounds pretty normal to me. My DD was the same. Just ride it out, if your DS is similar by 5 months you can have your arms back occasionly.

Don't pick him up when he cries!

Sounds very normal for 2mo I'm afraid, my DD was like this (and had reflux so I was covered in sick for 6 months!). Good luck, it does get easier (and then you'll start missing the cuddles!).

Do pick him up when he cries!
He's only tiny!! They're instinctive little things and need comfort and to be cuddled! My DS was the same and like a past poster said by about 4/5 months it got easier. Keep trying to put him down sleepy or sleeping but don't lose heart if he needs cuddles, they're used to being all squashed up inside you

Middleaged - seriously?!

OP - of course pick him up if he cries - he's a tiny baby and he needs all the cuddles he can get. His responses are entirely normal and you're doing exactly the right thing.

Also nothing wrong with co-sleeping sod your MIL he's not her baby nor in her bed! So stuff what she thinks!! Do what's best for you and baby.
In terms of having alone time my DH & I used to put DS to bed in our bed and then come back downstairs for an hour or so, make it really nice and cosy pick some good DVDs etc

I wouldn't pick him up straight away, no. Not every time. I'd try to comfort him in the CIT first. Talk about making a rid for your own back.

For what urs worth, I am the most cuddly mum yoyd find during the day time, but I think its important to make a difference between night and day from quite an early age if you want to get a good routine established.

I just put my DS down in his moses basket give him a kiss & say good night and walk out of the room. If I knelt by him waiting for him to go to sleep he'd never shut his eyes. I have the monitor on so if he cries me or DH go in to comfort him (patting, cuddles etc). (DS (7 weeks) isn't sleeper of the year or anything (still wakes at 11pm & then 1 - 2x per night) but has always been fine about sleeping in his own bed.)

I also only pick him up if he properly cries, I've noticed that what sound like grizzlng noises are often noises he makes when asleep or going to sleep.

Try rolling a blanket and curling it round his head - best positioned under cot sheet if you can. Mine liked the feeling of being cocooned and this was a great substitute for them. As was being placed on a beanbag/squishy cushion - picked that tip up after ds1 was in hospital at 7 weeks and we weren't allowed to pick him up as he was quite poorly. The nurses put two pillows side by side and covered them with a sheet so ds wouldn't slip under them. They said teeny babies need to feel like they're being held and this was a good way to achieve it without compromising his health.

Have you tried swaddlng OP?