18 mo night waking

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Just a quick 'poll'

DS, 18 mo someitmes wakes up in the night. I've spent 3 months tracking diet, exercise, health etc and there appears to be no definite pattern. 50% of the time he sleeps for at least 10 hrs at night, and often go back to sleep very quickly after a drink of water if he wakes between 3am and 5.30am.

he naps very well from 12-2pm or 12.20-2pm each day.

If he cries in the night woudl you:
ignore completly
go in and say Shhh
go in and pat/reassure physically
go in, check nappy and give dirnk of water
go in and give drink of milk
take into your own bed

and what would you do after 30 minutes; 1 hr; 2hrs if he was still crying
and what would you do the second or third or fourth time he did it in the same night?

btw its tantrum type of crying not 'please don't leave me I'm hurting'

my 2yr old still wakes up thru night but i always go (or hubby)and either sleep next to him to lull back to sleep or give feed.do whatever gets them back to sleep quickest.i personally wont leave them crying.

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I ignore for 5 mins then give milk in our bed

I give milk but for other reasons. In ideal circumstances, woudl send partner in to stay with her til asleep/nearly asleep to break the sleep/mummy association

So what do you do if the milk and cuddle doesn't work? and they won't go to sleep in your bed either?

I'd stay with them until they fell asleep, tbh, However long it took! I can say this because it will be my partner's job to do this when we move

its weird abotu twie a week we just get unconsolable crying which can go on for up to 3 hrs, I have to get this sorted out as DS is red eyed and fractiuos all day after a bad night and we are both tired too, Dh has to try and work this evening after only 4hrs sleep last night and I need more sleep myself.

DS doesn't seem to know who we are, or who he is during one of these fits, its not pain like teething pain - I always give medisad after 20 mins just in case and he just keeps screaming

Just been posting on thread I started earlier this week about similar (20 month old suddenly won't go to sleep by herself) I used to leave to cry for 5-10 mins if just a whingey cry then go in and always cuddle back to sleep after sniffing nappy and maybe offering water. This week its all gone horribly wrong with DD really crying almost hysterically at being left in cot - mainly at nap times but tonight was at bedtime too. Have left her to cry tonight feel awful.