Disastrous first day trying to get DS to self settle

[LittleMissPear]

So,'everyone (my DM, my health visitor etc) have told me that I shouldn't let my 8 week old DS fall asleep on me and put him down 'drowsy' and help him to self settle. So today I thought that I would make sure that I was on the look out for tiredness cues and put him down for naps in his crib so that he falls asleep himself. It worked ok with the morning nap, took a few times with me stoking his head and putting the dummy back in and he fell asleep for 45 mins. This afternoon though.... Put him in the crib, half an hour of singing and stroking and dummying he fell asleep for 5 mins, after that he was furious with me! I tired pupd, i.e. Cuddling to comfort then putting him back down with dummy in, I tried feeding him and not letting him fall asleep at the breast, nothing has worked. He's worked himself up into a right state, won't sleep and I feel terrible. Should I persist with this? Will he understand eventually? Thanks

I think 8 weeks is too young for this sort of thing.

At 8 weeks my DD wouldn't be having any of it either! I think it's worth it to keep trying as it did work for your morning nap. But perhaps if it isn't working pick up after about 10 minutes.thats what we did & DD was alright with it eventually. Good luck!

8 weeks is way too young. Ignore the so called advice and enjoy the snuggles

Let's discuss this in say, 8 months?

Enjoy the cuddles! My DS is suddenly 5 and has to tell me to leave his room at night!!

I have an 8 week old and no way considering sleep training. As the others say, enjoy the cuddles!!

8 weeks is still go with the flow time. Ignore anyone who says anything different. He is a baby animal- think of him as a puppy or a kitten. Do they sleep apart from their mothers when they are tiny?

Thanks for the comments everyone , unanimous advice there! I'll try and relax a bit then and not worry. This is my first baby and it's really hard not to worry that I'm doing stuff wrong/ not doing stuff I should be! I'm usually so laid back I thought I would be as a parent- but seemingly not!

It's so hard when everyone's giving you the benefit of their advice, and lots of people will tell you what you should/shouldn't be doing in order not to form 'bad habits' but the only think that really works is doing what feels right for you and your baby. I always reassured myself that my son/daughters would not be sucking a dummy, cuddling a comforter, breastfeeding on demand, co-sleeping etc etc on their wedding night! If it works for you, stick with it - eventually it will pass (and you'll miss it!) .