Naps/self settling

[butterfly86]

My dd is 18 weeks and will only go to sleep being cuddled I know it's my own fault but I need some advice, naps are getting harder as even when cuddled she cries and fights it for ten minutes before she gives in she used to just nod off no problem this has just started. She can only manage 90 minutes awake time before she's tired again normally she would have 2 hours on a morning 2 hours on an afternoon then 45 min to an hour late afternoon but the last few days she has started waking not long after I put her down so is getting an hour if that. Bedtime routine is good she is bathed fed and asleep by about 7.30 but the same thing happens she will be sound asleep then 10 min later wide awake smiling after a while she gets unhappy so we have to get her back to sleep normally that would be it second time she'd be fast asleep but again the last couple of days it's gone on for hours, We still have her moses basket downstairs until we go to bed but I dont think that's helping so last night I took her upstairs and shush patted without picking her up and she nodded off about half an hour. Nights are quite good after going to sleep at 9 last night she woke at 2.30 then 6 I gave her a cuddle at 6 then put her back down and she went back off until 7. She is grumpy a lot during the day as she is tired has anyone got any advice?

I've got an 18 week old too. She also can only manage about 90 mins awake but if she has not had a long enough nap before then the awake time will be less. If we are at home I put her in the cot at the first sign of tiredness as I find that if she is overtired then it is so much harder to get her to sleep. So the first yawn, rubbing eyes or whinge then she goes in her cot. I used to shush/pat but don't find that she needs it any more, usually can self settle herself with her dummy as long as shes not overtired.

How long did it take your dd to learn to self soothe with shush pat star obviously we need to work on it if I tried to put her down awake she would quickly get very upset if I left the room, she wants to be with me all the time mil had hold of her tonight and she was craning her neck to see where I was its lovely though :)

It took a while (weeks and weeks but gradually got easier & easier until she didn't need it anymore). Really worth persevering though, I think.

I feel your pain. My lo is 14 weeks and I cannot get him to nap during the day. It's driving me nuts. He's so so tired but just fights it. I've been trying for 2 hours this morning to get him to nap. 2 hours of sitting in a quiet room with the curtains drawn and him lying in my arms nursing. Do I have to do this everyday just to get him to sleep!!??

Here's a guide to shush-pat www.mybabysleepguide.com/2009/01/shhpat.html

And here's a guide to awake time lengths
www.mybabysleepguide.com/2013/02/average-sleep-charts-by-age.html

red it's hard work isn't it dd is asleep in my arms now but I know as soon as I put her down she'll wake up its easier for me to sit with her so she gets a decent nap or she's constantly tired! I need to start taking her to the cot for naps really just waiting for dh to raise the mattress up and I'll try doing shush pat there's too much light and distraction downstairs for her to get a decent sleep I feel like I spend my day sitting on the sofa sometimes the house is a tip and Ive had nothing to eat! Hopefully it's a phase! Thanks for the links not I'll take a look :)