11 month baby sleep problems

[Clairea82]

I am at the end of my tether with trying to work out what to do about my babies sleeping habits. I can only get her to sleep in the buggy or car in the daytime for naps and nightime is just getting ridiculous...

I used to bf to sleep in the evening but was finding it worked less and less and would take 3 or 4 times and a number of hours before she'd eventually fall asleep. One night we tried putting her on a large beanbag in the lounge and rocking it back and forth and she's been going to sleep in the evening like this for about a month now. At least this bit can be her dad now and not just me!

However she usually always wakes after just 30 minutes and then will not re-settle without bf. If daddy goes in she screams! I also have to bf her in the night, usually 2-3 times as I just cannot get her back to sleep any other way.

I'm getting so frustrated, as she started with a childminder three weeks ago, who can lay her in the cot and stroke her to sleep for naps....why won't she do this for us!??

I want to give up bf but just don't feel I can as I won't get any sleep as can't get her to settle without it. This just feels such a mess. I just want to be able to settle her in her cot like everyone else I know seems to be able to with their little ones :(

HV says I need to night wean and sleep train...but if I leave her in her cot for even a minute she screams blue murder and even when we hold her at night this doesn't comfort her, she just cries.

Opinions, advice and experiences welcome! xx

Search for The Baby Whisperer on You Tube - she was brilliant. Esp the pick up put down method.

Thanks... I tried pick up put down, but you're supposed to pick them up until they're calm and then put them down again, and repeat....my little girl didn't stop crying for me to be able to put her down again...

I'd do what the childminder does then, as she will associate that with sleep

Would recommend a dummy also to night wean worked for me. If she wakens now I go in briefly put dummy back in stroke her cheek and yes she will cry but I say ssshh tuck blanket around her to make her feel secure & leave

If still crying I go in again and repeat

Sometimes I stay within earshot and say gently sleep time for sleep

It's hard I hope someone comes along soon with more suggestions for you!

And bonjela also helps us for teething related wake ups

She won't take a dummy unfortunately, cant seem to keep it in her mouth, and only finally took a bottle at ten months!

I have tried to do exactly what the childminder does but she won't let me lay her down just gets straight up......such a nightmare. Starting to think I either put up and muddle through or have to spend a flipping fortune on a sleep consultant.... thanks for replies x

Just to say I did gradual retreat sleeping training when my 10mo started waking up in night again and also he wouldn't settle for bedtime. In his case it was separation anxiety and the gradual retreat method has really worked. He's so much calmer at night and goes off without any problems. I think the idea is that they're reassured you're there if needed, albeit at an increasing distance as nights go on. We're almost finished with training and can now leave the room at bedtime without any issues. On that first night I thought it would take hours of him screaming and standing in cot to settle but once he realised we weren't trying to sneak out he room, there was actually only 10 mins of crying. And every night since then, nothing.