Advice please on mistake I made with cc

[forestmum]

Can anyone help. I deciced as F is 8 months old I would leave him to cry at night. I had him in our room, and bed for the 2nd half of night, up to 3 weeks ago, and had managed to wean off feeding 'til 6am or after. But he needed to suck my finger everytime he woke.
So started to leave him to cry, but going in seemed to make him scream more when I left, so did not go in at all. Two weeks later and he has not learnt to sleep better at all! Cries for about an hour on waking!
If I did the going in after 10, 15, 20 mins etc would cc be more likely to work, or do I just have a determined son!
I'm hoping that I have just taken the wrong approach to cc and a few pointers in the right direction will help, so all info greatly appreciated.

FM,welcome to MN.
You do however have to accept that on an open forum like this,people can (and will) post things you don't like.

Hope it works out for you though-whatever you decide.

(I am all for leaving kids to cry-don't like the expression 'cc' though-sounds creepy-and do so quite often. Just not this young.)

forestmum, my ds was a terrible sleeper (we shared a bed too) and i was quite desperate by 8 months. but then he became more settled and was sleeping most of the night in his (previously unused) cot by 10 months - so my advice is to wait until he is a bit older.

oh fishie ty that has cheered me up - it keeps me sane that it may get better in time

As a first time mum I find I hear advice contrary to what I'm doing as criticism. My rational mind knows this is stupid but my rational mind is stamped on by my new mother mind that does not conform to rational thought! It's certainly not just our bodies that change after a baby

yesyes is fab now (17months). although he only sleeps nine hours so means bedtime is 9pm but does not wake AT ALL.

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I will certainly be going in to him from now on in. So fingers crossed he finds this a more acceptable arrangement! Thanks

Glad you are going to go into forestmum, personally I would hate to think of my little DD2 crying alone for an hour.

I've had such a shock with DD2, DD1 was an angel baby slept 11-6am at 6 weeks, 7-7 at 12 weeks, never cried for food had to remember to feed her, so much so I thought this is easy and got pregnant again when she was 9 months then along came DD2, an absolute milk monster wants to be attached to me 24/7 crawls about biting and eating everything in site (tried to latch onto everyone within range whatever bit of them she can) and just doesn't sleep, still utterly adorable though.

Babies have the weirdest sense of humour. After all the discussion last night he decided to sleep through until 6.45am! I'm sure it was a one off but kind of ironic!

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