Child led end to co-sleeping

[HolyDrinker]

So, finally, 3.3 year old DS has decided he wants to sleep in his own bed. This is fine by us, as we now have baby DD in with us! It has been his decision, which we have encouraged with new duvet etc.

He is doing really well, sleeping through 75% of the time, but happy for DH to give him a cuddle in his room if he wakes. Most certainly does not want to come back in our bed; we do offer this when he wakes.

So far, so good.

But during the day he has been very clingy with me, wants to be cuddled and carried lots and also refused to go to preschool earlier in the week, which is a first. I took him anyway but they called me to collect him as they thought he was under the weather. I don't think he was ill, at least no discernible symptoms, but he was quiet and a bit washed out.

I'm worried that maybe he isn't ready for a big boy bed and he's anxious about the change in his routine. Did anyone else's child go through a transition period when they moved into their own bed? Did it unsettle them for long? It has been totally led by him but he just doesn't seem his usual bouncy, happy self since he moved.

Thanks

Bump.

Slept through last night but has had three tantrums this morning and wet himself. He hasn't done that for 8 months.

How old is your DD? I was wondering if her arrival was a recent change or if there had been any other changes recently which might have resulting anxiety?

She's just turned one. We did have a few hiccups when she arrived but thought we were over the worst.

I guess it could be related to other anxieties or could be that he both likes the independence and is scared by it at the same time? Sorry not to be more help!

It sounds as if something else than being in his own bed is making him anxious. It can be hard to get them to vocalise their anxieties when they are so little - their analytical skills and ability to pinpoint their feelings are only nascent. Keep talking to him...

I wonder if it's preschool, but he went really happily for the first three weeks. He's due in again tomorrow so we will see.

Other than that, I'm at a loss. Nothing else in particular has changed at all.

When my son started nursery staff said its often after a few weeks that kids find it hard - there's a bit of a 'oh this is all the time' realisation - like the novelty wore off. Then when they get passed that they're properly ok there. Maybe it's something like that?

That's interesting Emma, that would make sense I guess. He only goes twice a week but it's his first experience of a nursery setting so imagine it is all quite unsettling.