This is so hard, it can't be normal can I do anything?

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23week old DD. Sleep been variable throughout ebf, last fee weeks waking every 2 hours having fed only 2-3x a night for a while. Then improved a few days now bad again. Tonight bed at 8ish, awake 9.20-gone 10, 12, 2, 3, 3.40 & now. I didn't feed since 2. I can hardly function in the days. It's not hunger each time, a lot of bottom end wind I think she awakes arches back groans & wriggles . Invariably I feed to get her back to sleep could be a very short feed. Co- sleeping after first wake up, not weaning yet, am I doing something wrong, I don't know how to manage it anymore. Day naps variable but usually 2 hours after getting up plus 2 more anything from 15 mins-90 mins, seems to cope on power naps and we don't have meltdowns or much problem with over tiredness as far as I can tell. Sorry long post. I am really struggling now, we had been managing ok.

So sorry you sound exhausted!!

Can you read up on sleep regressions?

Could you try gripe water for the wind?
When were u planning to wean? Is baby showing interest in food?

Yes I think I am now exhausted. Awake again 6.40 then dp took her but my stupid body hasn't let me sleep.

I've read re sleep regression, this is still it then? In it for the long haul then, at least it maybe isn't something I'm doing wrong.

I may try gripe water I've avoided it so far as really only wanted to use things with a scientific/medical basis to them but I think I'm past that.
Weaning probably we'll start anytime now. I was going to wait until 26 weeks but think maybe we'll make a start in the next few days. She sits up very well, is interested in food but the same as anything else although doesn't. Put lots in her mouth but that's probably just individual variation. Maybe. First time mum if it wasn't blindingly obvious!

I don't know if it's any consolation, but you do toughen up. Some babies are shitty mc shit shit awful sleepers, like my darling, darling DS1. He was very like yours at that age, and I was very like you. I really thought I was going to die and I subjected the poor little sausage to every kind of screamy sleep training under the sun which only made him worse. Weaning made no difference either. He was still exactly the same when I went back to work full time when he was 8 months old and didn't improve until...never mind. You really don't want to know. You toughen up and carry on because you have to.

What it is helpful for is dealing with the sleep deprivation of DC2 Naturally I'm throwing every (gentle, non-screamy) trick in the book at his little brother to avert another non-sleeper if at all possible, and have been doing so since the day of his birth nine weeks ago, but I'm so used to years month after month of 1-2 hourly waking that the newborn thing is a doddle!

Hi i am a first timer and that 8-9-10 month regression nearly killed me. But she slept through after that.

Good luck. I feel for you.

We are having the exact same thing OP. I just feed and then pray she sleeps a bit longer than an hour.
She only naps in the day for 10 - 20 mins unless walking around in carrier ( how I'm not superfit and super skinny after all this walking I'll never know. Oh wait, prob has something to do with all the cake I need to eat to give me energy to chase 3 yr old round!)
She also keeps getting colds (thanks to DS and pre school) so is worse than ever at the moment!
Good luck and fingers crossed we both get some sleep soon.