What do you think about my new theory...

[jaffas2013]

OK, i'll try to keep this brief! have previously posted about issues with my son not wanting his bedtime bottle and refusing to sleep for hours and then success....! he starts taking it but still having the same bedtime battle.

I'm aware of separation anxiety/sleep regression. He is almost 10 months old but I have a new theory..

Could it be that he just isnt comfortable in his bed? The second I pick him up give him cuddles and lie him on our bed while he calms down he starts to hapilly drift off to sleep but screams blue murder the second I transfer him back. I've replaced his mattress and even bought an extra topper but to be honest it's still not as comfy as ours!

Or alternatively... Have I built a huge rod for my own back and he's decided he'd much rather be in ours permanently?

Could it be because your bed smells of you?

Does he sleep on his front on your bed?

Sounds more like separation anxiety. We had this sort of sleep disruption for a few months at this age. We went with it and co slept for most of the night as otherwise we were up every 40 minutes. It suddenly stopped as quickly as it started.

I wouldn't think it's the mattres. Does he have a comforter for a special blanket that you could keep in your bed during the day?

Babies naturally want to sleep with carer. Its hired wired as a survival technique. Even as adults plenty of us choose to sleep with partners.

Yes, one can unlearn this habit but his default is to be held so the wolves don't get him!

Thanks for all the replies - Apologies, I've had a busy day so not been able to log on until now hurrumph! in answer to the questions..

Norahbone It could be because our bed smells of us, I've also tried putting one of my tshirts in with him but it didnt seem to help at all.

Jazzandh He does sometimes sleep in his front but only by accident when he rolls over in his sleep, he actually doesnt like being on his front at all, which makes learning to crawl a small issue but thats another story!!

AnythingNotEverything I have been letting him stay with us but its killing me! I cant sleep properly panicking that either me or hubby may squish him, and plus I really dont want to make it a long term habbit.

Also tried moving his bed so close to ours I have to crawl in from the bottom and so does hubby (as his side is against the wall) but this doesnt make any difference either.

Just to make matters worse.. Im back to work in just over 3 weeks time and can barely function properly as it is without a full days work on top .

I should also mention that up until a month or so ago, he was sleeping thru absolutely fine

The only way we got trough was to start her in her cot every night, keep returning her until after 2am, then bring her in with us. Make it safe - we put DD in the middle in between the pillows but with our pillows right out of the way, and then her on top of the duvet in her sleeping bag.

In time she just started going through on her own.

Do what you need to do to get the sleep you need! Plenty of families cosleep at this age and go on to have babies who sleep through on their own.

Thats basically what we're doing now, but that still doesnt stop me panicking.

I guess i'll just have to try and relax abit and ride the storm so to speak!