Feeding to sleep at 9 months

[Swannykazoo]

So, naps have involved pram /sling/car and are pretty good - 45mins in am, 45 mins to an hour after lunch, bedtime about 7:30. I've gone back to work so there's a fair old shift to reverse cycling and little puggle has dropped his lunchtime feed but has serious separation anxiety (i'm hoping its age and stage rather than work related)
We co-sleep so the 3 or so feedings overnight aren't too bad but I would like to a) have my evenings back instead of being stuck under a sleeping baby and b) not wake the wee one taking them up to bed at 10ish and c) get my bed back.
I keep reading that feeding to sleep is the work of the devil and it needs stopped to sort out any other sleep bother. So, any of you wise MNers found babies have stopped on their own? Any suggestions how to stop feeding to sleep? (And not bloody Pantley pull off - It just involves little puggle doing a few test sucks, noticing the nipples gone, rooting and then relatching. Sigh)

I say do whatever feels natural and right for you. I fed DS1 to sleep all the time in the end. His sleep was horrific and I spent months trying to fix it but nothing worked. If I left him to cry for a few minutes he would end up being sick which wasn't nice for anyone and if I rocked him or anything else it would take an hour or more for him to drift off by which time I was wide awake. I gave up worrying about it in the end and just fed him to sleep each time which meant sitting in a warm bed with no tears and he would be back to sleep in minutes. He naturally stopped breastfeeding at 2yrs (just didn't want to feed one night) and has since fallen asleep on his own without any issues. DS2 is also fed to sleep and I refuse to worry about it this time. It feels natural and right to me. I'm sure it's different for everyone and you've got to do what works for you in the long run. Just feel confident in your own decisions and trust your instincts.

I fed my twins to sleep at 9 months for their morning nap. Was the only way I could get them to sleep at the same time and manage to take a shower.
Stopped BF by about 10 months though and they didn't mind at all.
Still neede walking in pram to get to sleep in daytime plus lots of cuddling and rocking at night.

Following as I'm in the same position with my six month old!

Fab - there's nothing like hearing it'll come right when they're ready!

We managed to break the sleep-feed association for a while (these things can be undone . We picked a week where we had a few clear days together and started with morning nap - into cot awake, no boob. There were tears, did lots of comforting etc and after about 45 minutes (with intermittent crying) he went to sleep. This was at about 9 months I think, maybe a little earlier. Repeated at afternoon nap - only 25 minutes of on off crying. Bedtime, went to sleep without a peep. Night waking massively reduced. BUT this stopped working when teething/sick/going through changes.

Have repeated a few times and sometimes it's worked. Other times you know in a few minutes that's it's not, because its a hysterical cry.

So now at 16 months we've gone through a long spell of feeding to sleep, naps in pram, but doesn't need to be moving.

We've just started trying to get him to settle for Dad to sleep - first three nights he just lay down, had a cuddle and a natter and went to sleep for Dad. The next two nights he went crazy. Last two nights some fussing but did go to sleep within half an hour.

So it may be worth sending in OH (if that's an option) just to see what they do. Can be less upsetting because OH isn't denying milk, so ours certainly didn't get cross like he would with me.

It might work!

I am given up any expectation of my son sleeping through until all his teeth are cut. I feel less stressed just going with it.