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EmmaLL25 · 20/09/2014 23:22

Been on here lots about DS who is an awful sleeper.

He's 16 months and currently won't sleep for more than 90 mins at a time unless I'm sleeping next to him. In which case he can do 5/6 he stretches, but more commonly 3-4hrs.

I know he needs to self -settle and we need to night wean. Still bf to sleep and through night. More by neccessity than choice as in it gets everyone the most sleep.

He went through a phase where he was self-settling and at that point his night wakings dropped to 1 or 2 a night which was fine for his age at that time.

I've lost track of hours spent by his cot while he cried when I've been 'sleep training' him to self settle. We've done it so many times but it gets undone by ilnness, teething (got bloody back molars half way through already) change etc.

So it needs doing again but I feel so unmotivated and despondent. I hate doing it. It seems so unfair that he has to cry to be a better sleeper!

I read the Dr Sears stuff about high needs babies, he ticked so many boxes!

So part of me thinks let him get there on his own time. On the other hand I have very little evening going to resettle him, I don't get to share a bed with OH apart from maybe an hour at start of night (then I take DS to spare room). I feel like I'm a crap mum and a crap wife just now.

OH used to be able to settle DS to sleep but he won't for Dad just now.

Just needed a moan really.

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workingtitle · 21/09/2014 07:30

That sounds so tough, Emma. There's no right or wrong answer but it doesn't sound like the current situation is working for you. Could you afford some help with it? I would be feeling worn down and lacking in energy to start changing things, and some help might make the difference.

EmmaLL25 · 21/09/2014 12:00

Not really and I don't think I'd feel comfortable involving a stranger. I actually quite like co-sleeping and would be ok doing it a bit longer IF he would just cobble a few hours together at the start of the evening.
Then sometimes when there's no teething or colds he will suddenly do 3-4 hrs. No rhyme nor reason to it.

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