9 month old only sleeping for 1hr 15 during the day

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DD2 is sleeps for about 1 mins in the morning and will then only sleep for 1 hour at lunch. This results in her being so tired and grump in the afternoon, but she won't take an afternoon nap at all either.

She sleeps from 7.30pm - 6.30am without waking.

Is this enough sleep? If not how can I help her sleep better? I've tried reducing / dropping morning sleep but she just can't make it through the morning then.

How long are you giving her to settle for her afternoon nap before deciding that she doesn't want it? Where is she sleeping?

When she wakes after the 15 min morning nap I just get her up. At lunch when she wakes after an hour I've left her for up to 20 mins but she just gets hersefl so upset I can't bear to let her go for any longer.

I completely sympathise - my 8mo dd sleeps all night (great!) but will only sleep for between 30-45 mins in the morning and about the same in the afternoon. By the time teatime is upon us she is absolutely exhausted. I worry too that she isn't getting enough sleep. She used to sleep for about 1 hour three times a day, but since she can crawl, she's slept less, despite me thinking she's need more sleep as she's more active!

Feel cheeky complaining considering she sleeps so well at night, but it's exhausting going without a proper break during the day isn't it!

Tbh, by 10 mos DS was only having 1hr 30 in the afternoon.

how soon after getting up in the morning does she nap? maybe she needs to be up longer in the morning so she's tired enough to sleep longer, then try putting her down later in the afternoon?

Thank your lucky stars she sleeps at night!

Sorry - just been up all night with my 17mo.

Seriuosly I'd try a couple of things: drop the am nap - it is hell the first week you do it but it can help dramatically at lunchtime. If you need to bring lunch right back then put her down for her midday nap as early as 11am.

try quiet time in front of the TV instead of a nap in the morning, or even a bath! used to help DS relax and get a second wind.

the other thing that worked well for me was giving a top up milk feed after lunch and immediatly before the midday nap.

I'd say she does need more sleep - its just finding out when suits her and you. Can you put her to bed earlier? DS went to bed at 6.30pm until he was 15 months. that would give an extra hour if she still sleeps til 6.30am.

I had the problem with DS around this age that he could not get through teh morning without a sleep, so he would have one sleep around 10.30 for about 3/4 hour and one slightly longer around 2pm.

I kept going with that pattern until he was about 14 months when he started to wake later in the morning and so could keep going until he had an afternoon nap around 1pm.

But with hindsight I think it might have been better (more practical for me) if I had put him down at 11am and let him sleep (he would have done) for a couple of hours, then gave him lunch later.

Then I could have just moved his nap later when he got a bit older.

Would that work?

This morning I didn't give her a morning nap and for the first time she was OK - she needed a lot of attention to keep her mind off the fact she was tired, but that was fine. Regardless of this I have just sat and listen to her going bonkers for 20mins when she woke after an hour at lunch.

Thanks for the suggestions. Sadly a morning nap (e.g.11am) for a couple of hours isn't really feasible as I have a 2year old who has a couple of hours sleep between 2 and 4 so that would mean that we are pretty much trapped in the hous all day. Also getting DD2 in bed for 6.30 not really an option for us, though I do try and do that for them both on those wonderful days when neither sleep well during the day!!

I'm going to keep going with trying to drop the morning nap and see how she goes. I cna't think of what else to do.

My DS (almost 11 months) only has about 30 mins at around 10am and another 30 mins about 3pm. BUT he usually goes to bed about 6:30pm and will normally sleep through to about 6:30 am (frantically touching wood emoticon)

I sympathise with the feeling of being stuck int hehouse but could you try it for two weeks? if you can get her to nap 11-1, maybe while you and toddler play and have one to one time, then wake her up and all eat lunch together. Then toddler has nap while you and baby have one to one time.

2pm -4pm is quite late for an afternoon nap for a toddler, can you not bring that slightly earlier? Does your 2 yr old sleep at nights? I'd be aiming for a 12-2 nap for baby and a 1-3 nap for toddler.

regarding bedtime, is it totally impractical to get her in bed earlier? or do you mean she wakes up earlier if she goes to bed earlier?