Confessions of a non sleeper mummy !!

[Bigbouncingbaby]

My name is big bouncing baby and my 10m old DS is a rubbish sleeper

After the 5th waking tonight I want to chuck him out the window

I want to slap my best mate who has had two good sleepers and moans when her DD wakes at 5am for a feed since sleeping from 6pm and all day

I want to dress up , put on heels and party except I can't as to tired / would be up all night and up at 6 am next day with DD who has never slept past 6am in her life

Want to muster my miserable DH who thinks he has it tough when I do 90% of the child care / nights etc

I want to step out of my life for one night and get sleep

Not feel guilty if I go to bed after 8pm

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Ps won't Murder anyone and love my kids ..... Just saying !!!!!!

I hear you. DS2 is waking up any time from 4am onwards, he's nearly 2, I'm back at work & there are times when I want to book into a hotel & leave DH to it.

Can't offer any help I'm afraid, but I feel your pain.

Me three!

Me four! I love my DS (7 months) to pieces during the day -- he's a lovely smiley bundle. Come night he transforms into a shrieky monster-child who won't settle for anyone but me (and the magic boobs) and wakes screaming, sometimes hourly. 3 wake ups between 9pm and 6am is now a seriously good night in our house. Dh tries to help but Ds won't let him. It has to be Utterly Exhausted Mummy apparently

I think wanting to chuck them out of the window is an entirely normal feeling at least I seriously hope it is

Kate - snap - my ds 7 months will now not take a bottle off daddy during the night. He wants to torture me .......

OP we were up at 4.50am this morning just to let you know you are not alone.

Can't give you any advice except I get stuff done like laundry ,cleaning etc so that when he goes down early evening I can just veg out on the sofa with my feet up and glass of wine or cup of tea!

Laundry is a great choice in this house because the machine knocks and bangs and I hope it is disturbing my dp's peaceful slumber hehehehe

You could be describing my DS. He is 10 now and still finds it hard to sleep. DD1 who followed him however, is a sleep monster. At 4 weeks old she slept 12-6 and at 2 months did 7-7, consistently.

DD2 was what I would describe as "normal". Slept through from about 6 months, but still sleeps in our bed at almost 4.

They are all different.

Can you book a night in a travelodge and leave DH to it? Some nice bubble bath and a book.......

That sounds like a fab idea except he may end up out the window !!!! he is totally rubbish at night has no patience and like others above he only really settles with me and Im bottle feeding him

After 10 months you juts want it to get better don't you. You expect it at the beginning ....sign. My DD took a while but was pretty good by this age. Nothing makes her sleep past 6am but she sleeps solidly and goes down early. I dread nights now its like having a new born !!!!!

I might ask my mum for just one night ........... how loverly .In the nicest way its nice to know others are suffering as it feels like only us

I seem to have friends with great sleepers ...maybe need new friends :) !!!!

Ah Bouncing, I too have friends with great sleepers unless they're lying, please let them be lying. When I describe DS's nighttime shenanigans they look dismayed and say, "well why does he do that, then?"

I try hard not to shake them, grit my teeth and say that if I knew WHY I'd try to fix it.

Actually, I probably do know why, it's cos I feed him to sleep, but the alternative is shrieking so blood-curdling it doesn't bear thinking about. Oh the horror.

Exactly Kate screaming or sleep I've tried reasoning with him but it's milk he wants !!!!!!!????????

I love helpful advice my friend said I will laugh about it one day I'm not so sure

Do you not think if DH had no escape plan (i.e. You) he could actually step up to the mark, and it might make him realise what you do?

my ds (now 19 month old) was the same. the other mums at baby groups all had babies who napped during the day. my son was only happy when clamped to my nipple. he would feed all day nap on the boob and if i tried to put him down in his basket or the pram for a nap he'd scream same during the night. every hour or so he'd wake and then not go back to sleep. my mum told me she thought there was something seriously wrong with him . there wasnt. my son now sleeps through the night and takes naps.

he has done since 6 months. hang in there it will get better...