Gentle sleep training for 1 year old

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I've been on here loads about DS, he has always been a crap sleeper cc CIO just are not for us he gets hysterical and gets sick all over his bed! And went from 2/3 wake ups a night to every 20 minutes the 3 weeks we stuck it out with cc!
Today my GP put me on antidepressants for PND he thinks not sleeping is a great influence on how I feel and suggested sleep training DS I just want a gentle way that's not going to stress us out! At the moment he sleeps in his own bed till about 11 then sleeps with us just so that I don't have to get up the other 2/3 times!
Any tips or advise would be greatly participated

Are you still breastfeeding? If so, you may be interested to read and share the following article and links with your GP about sleep, breastfeeding and depression. There's also a great new book about sleep called Sweet Sleep, again it is more relevant if you're breastfeeding but there is a big section on dealing with depression and how to get more sleep which is applicable to anyone. This website is also reassuring to explain what is normal with respect to sleep in babies and toddlers ISIS ONLINE

If co-sleeping works, don't rush to change it. Have a few weeks of decent sleep, let the AD kick in, then decide what you would like to do once you have recharged you batteries.

I have done all types of methods with dd1(now nearly 4) from cc to co-sleeping, with varying success. And even if a method works, it's unpredictable how long for (potty training has a lot to answer for...)

So focus on what maximises sleep for your family now, then deal with linger term sleep plans later. If co-sleeping is not restful for you, we had dd in blow up kids readybed next to ours at one point in our journey, dd was happy with a hand to hold and dh and I could roll over without checking first.

Thank you ladies :)
I'm not breast feeding, but I will give those links a read hoping for the best!

I agree with milkjetmum if having your little one snuggled in bed stops his night waking it sounds like that is increasing your sleep total already. If you want to know more about the scientific benefits of bed sharing you may be interested in this book What Every Parent Needs to Know. The idea of a mattress on the floor next to yours has worked for many families if there isn't enough space for everyone in the bed.

Hello. We're currently trying to sleep train our 1yo ds. Up until this week he slept in his cot pushed against our bed with one side off. Any hint of bars has him screaming.
At the weekend we moved the cot into his room and I've been sleeping on a futon next to it. Phase 1 - get him used to his own room, phase 2 - get him to sleep all night in his cot rather than in my arms as he so often was, phase 3 - put the bars on. Currently in phase 1, so we shall see. This is the gentlest way I can think. I don't want to do cc etc. Hopefully gentle methods will work for us, though I'm prepared for it to take as long as it takes. Good luck finding a route that works for you. And remember, even if you don't crack it they'll move out and go to university eventually

We are doing something similar to sunflower. We were using side car cot. Have now moved DS to own room and turned cot into bed.

To start with he was waking every hour so I ended up sleeping on floor with him. Then he's cut teeth and got a cold so we've decamped to spare room from mid night onwards.

We are going for most sleep for most people!

Longer term want to get him happy in his room and hopefully do very gradual retreat/withdrawal of my input.

Found NCSS helpful but things are going MUCH slower for us than book suggests. Like months slower. With lots of back steps.

You're not alone. Some I think just aren't inclined to sleep.

Hope you start feeling better soon and get more sleep!

I have taken DS out of his cot and he is now in a bed with a safety rain which he seems to prefer, he can generally manage 4-5 hours in his bed before migrating to mine :)
And to be honest he's just reacted to his MMR so I think I will wait for him to get better and then give ncss a go I have the book just never put it in practice!
I totally agree I think some babies just don't sleep

thanks everyone

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