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8 month old terrified and hysterical at night

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Fleura · 25/08/2014 20:37

I'm starting to lose the will to live...my 8 month old's sleep has been steadily going downhill for the past 10 days. I'd almost go so far to say that this is the worst he's ever been, even as a newborn.

He's never been a fantastic sleeper but 3 weeks ago, he was self settling, had gone down to 2 naps and was only waking once in the night for a feed.

I now have to rock and hold him to sleep - he usually wakes the minute he's in the cot unless I keep my hands around him and continue singing for 10mins or so. Eventually I will be able to leave the room but the slightest noise and he's awake. Typically we'll have a 2hr stretch in the night.....early evening, middle of the night...where he will be wide awake.

I've tried to give him a chance to settle - it used to work - but he gets himself into such a state that it can then take up to half an hour to calm him down. We have to go into another room, turn on lights and even play with him as he seems to be in a blind panic and absolutely terrified. Even as I type this, he's gone from having calmed down and been smiling to full on hysterics and screaming because we've walked him into another room.

I don't think it's separation anxiety because he's been away from me for hours today and been fine.....but perhaps it's just the longer stretch at night? I'm taking him to the doctors tomorrow to rule out anything medical - he goes to town on his ears at night, and has already sprouted 5 teeth but teething has never been anywhere this bad.

I know there's an 8 month sleep regression so perhaps it's my naivety as I just never imagined it could be this horrendous.

Apologies for the long spiel.....it's been an hour since we've tried to put him down tonight and I'm losing the plot :(

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AnythingNotEverything · 25/08/2014 20:39

I'm really sorry to say we had about three months of this. We ended up cosleeping from about 2am every night because DD just wouldn't settle without screaming. Then one day it just stopped.

No advice. Just some solidarity fist bumps for you.

monsterowl · 25/08/2014 21:04

I second the suggestion of co-sleeping. Parents are often put under so much pressure not to make a rod for our own backs that we are almost afraid to comfort our babies when they need it!

My kids are a few years older than yours (4 and 3), but around the time when DD turned 1, she would wake an hour or so after falling asleep and cry. I discussed it with my HV and we worked out that the problem was likely that I would sit next to DD's cot as she drifted to sleep, holding her hand. So, when she woke in the night and I wasn't there any more, this made her upset. I can't remember exactly how we solved the problem, but I think it involved moving gradually further from her cot, night by night, until I could leave the room.

But if you're knackered and your DS is upset, I'd suggest just giving yourselves a break and co-sleeping ... it's natural that he should want you to comfort him, and it will turn out to be just another phase! Both of mine went through phases when they would want to come into the 'big bed' at various stages of the night.

Fleura · 25/08/2014 21:25

Thanks for the quick replies...well, he's finally got off to sleep after half an hour time out downstairs. Not sure how long it will last.

Cosleeping isn't for us unfortunately - I have recurrent nightmares about having rolled on top of him even without him in the bed and I'm also prone to night terrors and the occasional disoriented half-sleepwalk so I couldn't trust myself.

We'll have to grin and bear it...and keep reminding ourselves it's just a phase just a very trying one at that!

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MissRatty · 27/08/2014 08:41

I just wanted to peep at t his thread as we are going through the same thing exactly!

Will get to sleep ok, but every two hours, sometimes less, will wake screaming (sometimes not even wake, but just crying hysterically). Pick him up, he stops crying, put him next to you, stops crying, but as soon as he's put back in the cot he starts screaming again. We wither have to cuddle, feed back to sleep or just put a hand on him until he calms down again and falls back to sleep.

It's been going on about four weeks now, and is killing us! On a few occasions I have slept next t o him, but don't like doing it...only because I believe I am a heavy sleeper and get nightmares too. He also does it during day time naps.

Apparently it's all linked to the crazy fast development they are doing at the mo, as well as teething and the start of nightmares.

But I hope it stops soon!

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