In midst of sleep training hell, press on or reset?

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Ds is 11.5 months. Until 1 month ago we were firmly feeding to sleep, co sleeping from 930, feeding at all wakings and multiple night feeds.

A mixture of all sorts of methods, very brief cc and gradual retreat has got us to the point I feed him in his room, wind & put down awake, he nods off in 5-15 mins with minimal fuss, me verbally reassuring sitting nearby but no longer stroking or touching him. He was sleeping til midnight with a brief resettle, then feed at 4 & co sleep from then.

Last 4 nights it's gone to rats. Waking at 10, 1130, 130 then I cannot settle him without bringing him into my bed. Last 2 nights he's settled for 10 mins at a time before sobbing his heart out whilst I try to soothe him off again. This went in for 3 hrs last night before DH & neighbours had both had enough & I gave in.

Ds is shattered, we all are. He's not eating properly, is tearful, over tired, naps gone to shit. A total mess. Back to work soon & this needs sorting.

Should I persevere tonight or just co sleep do we all get some rest & start over in a few days? Will that undo everything we've achieved so far? So tired I can't think straight, terrible sleeper from birth, thanks for reading.

It depends what you're trying to achieve. If it's really important to change what you're currently doing then I would suggest you persevere, as everything I've read says all the methods work, but consistency is key.

If you think you've made a mistake and can't see this method through, then choose a different one.

If you need to wait until a more suitable time to try, eg when you DH has some holiday, because you won't have the stamina, then do that, but you'll have to start over and it might be harder second time around.

Thank you. We're trying to achieve self settling at wake ups. He can go off fine at bedtime & until about 1 then it just goes horribly wrong. When I say we've used a variety if methods, not all at once, different ones to achieve each part ie feeding to sleep etc.

It just feels like each night is getting worse followed by an even worse day as he's so tired and we can't seem to claw it back.