how do I teach one yr old ds...

[neilsharvest]

That I am there if he needd me at night but he is ok on his own. Have been co sleeping, have just successfully and easily night weaned from ebf and moved him to his cot in his room but he wakes hourly for a cuddle or sshh pat- screams til sick if I wait even a minute. ..any advice??

My child is tge same sadly, part time co sleeper it's night 2 of him sleeping in his room all night and his cried 3 times in 4 1/2 hours :(
So no advise just sympathy
We can't CIO or cc because he either gets sick or hysterical and to be honest I can't cope with him crying!!! But I need sleep!!

Oh that just be very distressing for you!

Does he sleep through when he's in your room?

We put my DS in his own room when he was 6m and if I were to do it again (which I won't be) I would not have moved him so soon tbh. I felt mean sending him off when me, DH and the dog were all still sleeping in the same room.

Is it not being next to you that's the problem?

Is there a specific reason why you've chosen to move him into his own room?

If you have the room, could you not set up the cot so it was along side your bed, with the side down so that he could get used to not being in your bed but still be close to you?

Hi thank you for the replies. He was virtually stuck to my boobs when we co slept so I wanted to get away from that and we were both ready to stop bf amyway- it was definitely just a comfort thing in the middle of the night. So I decided that the further away from milk he was at night the better. He puts up massive fights when things change so I don't want to do two moves iyswim.

I think the next stage is to just say 'lie down' instead of going in and physically lying him back down.

has anyone been successful in this situation?

As I said before we are currently in your situation but making progress! Last night was night 3 and he woke every 3 hours so definitely better than every hour! I also thought that once we have been doing this a week I want to stop rocking/ patting and just sit in his room but that is only theory!!
Would your LO take a dummy?

Hi sosotired. Making slow progress here too- last night rather than stay in his room, pick up or rock etc- I left the room and went back in if he cried- took a few gos but he fell asleep on his own and then on his night wakings- 2hrly I just put his dummy in, laid him back down and left the room ( after a little back stroke- he is so perfect!) Tonight I plan to try and only use my voice to settle him so as to remove the physical comfort he still relies on to get back to sleep.

Hope you continue to see progress

We did the gentle way via the No Cry sleep Splutipn by Elizabeth Pantley - it does take longer but with minimal tears! It started with the cot next the the bed then gradually did the 'travelling cot', then would settle with us in the room, then by the door etc. There were a few setbacks with colds and things, so it took a month or more, but we just didn't feel comfortable to go straight from snuggly cosleeping to full on sleep training.