I've posted before about DS1, 2.10yo and always been a crap sleeper. He had sleep apnoea caused by enlarged tonsils and adenoids, which he had removed 2 months ago. He always woke frequently through the night, usually whenever his breathing stopped. He'd wake screaming and terrified and need us to help settle him again. The apnoea has gone (yay!) but his sleep is still poor. No issues putting him to bed, but we still have to sit with him until he sleeps (tried gradual withdrawal but he got too distressed), and the same with each night waking. His consultant has refered him to the sleep clinic as he said the night wakings should have reduced/stopped now his breathing is ok. He has concerns that his lack of sleep will affect his growth and development (as do we); even poor DS gets upset saying he wants to sleep and told us this morning that he "can't sleep mammy" :(
DS2 is almost 8mo, and started quite well with sleep and self settling. Then the 4 month sleep regression happened. Now we put him to bed after bath and he always wakes about an hour later. When he does he screams like he's being murdered. It's horrific and so loud we can't leave him to settle again or he'll wake DS1. This keeps happening every hour so now he ends up sleeping downstairs until we go to bed, and he co-sleeps with us. He's been waking every 1-1.5 hours every night this week and will only settle with a feed, but he started crawling yesterday so the two may be linked. People keep saying just put him in his cot sleepy and leave him, but the shrieking starts. CC has wen suggested but again he will start shrieking and we can't risk waking DS1 as he needs every minute of sleep possible.
Frankly I'm on my knees with tiredness. DH too, and he's working. I start back at work in a week and really don't know what to do anymore. I'm now drinking coffee an eating revels (bad I know!) trying to get the energy to do the cleaning. What can we do?