Aibu to want to smack the advise givers who imply 4mnth old DS not "going the night" is my fault?

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Made the mistake of telling a lady I was working with today that DS is not a big fan of sleep. As it is DP & I are v pleased at the moment with 3/4 wakes between 1900 and 0500 as this is a huge Improvement!
This lovely lady went on and on about my milk clearly not satisfying him (even though I said we gave a formula feed before bed to little difference), he clearly wasn't satisfied - all babies should be going through the night by 4 months, I should put baby porridge in his milk, my milk will be of poor quality after 4 months of feeding eta etc
I know I need to let all this well meaning -crap- advice wash off me but URG!! I have a happy, healthy baby who can sleep for longer than 2 hours just doesn't that often! Can it really be my fault?

Raise one eyebrow and say "you must have had children quite some time ago, the advice is rather different now".

My ds will be 8 months next week and is still not sleeping through, it is completely normal for bf babies to nurse during the night as it is a comfort thing not just for feeding.

YANBU.

Really? she thinks all four month olds should sleep through? How bloody ridiculous. She's talking utter rubbish! I think I'd just have to laugh at her.

I hate those people. Ditto " my baby slept through the night at 3 seconds old " etc

My 6 month ds is ff and still doesn't sleep through.

Bollocks, bollocks, bollocks ! But you know that! Neither of mine slept through until 18 months. Changing to formula/weaning onto solids etc. made not one jot of difference and they only slept through when they learned to self settle.

Laugh at her, only thing you can do!

My formula fed DD only started sleeping through at 10 months old. She wanted a 6 oz bottle at around 3 am, despite having been weaned on to solids at 6 months and being a good eater. Every baby is different!

My 14 month old FF baby is only starting to go through the night! I still need to stick the soother in once it twice but no getting out of bed (he is in bedside cot) and I think this is great.
My older DC didn't start reliably going through the night til about the same age and is a great sleeper now.

Just smile and say resistance to sleep is a sign of intelligence.
At least that's what my mum says about DS (I was a bad sleeper too). yawn

Thank you ladies! In the cold light of day I feel able to laugh off her comments but at 2200 when DS had already woken twice I was starting to wobble!!

FFS! My eldest isn't 15 yet so it wasn't that long ago that we were told that for a breast fed baby 5 hours was essentially 'through the night' and if we could time it so those five hours were between midnight and 5am we'd have better quality sleep. The average age for this happening was about 4 months but this was also at a time when we started weaning then so they had a tummy full of rice to go to bed with!
Your colleague is clearly wrong and clearly mad. Ignore: carry on doing what you are doing with your happy healthy baby!

This woman knows exactly NOTHING. Ignore her. Your milk is fine.

And no, YANBU to want to smack her. I imagine any other mum she has spouted this rot at would join an orderly queue behind you.