So tired I could drop right now!!

[BooseysMom]

My DS has NEVER slept thru the night and although I love BF'ing (I ebf), after nearly 9 months, it is beginning to take its toll and has actually got worse lately. He'll go in his cot during the day for his morning and afternoon naps, but he won't go in at night. The cot is next to the bed and I just end up having him in bed with us to feed. He needs to feed to get to sleep which I know is a bad habit and I was warned and warned but desperation to get some sleep has pushed me to co-sleep and feed to sleep too. The HV has advised us to move him out of the room into his own room, but I'm really reluctant to do this as he's just starting showing signs of separation anxiety. I thought of moving the cot away from the bed but the thought of him crying all through the night and with the neighbours each side of us, has put me right off!
Last night it was worse than ever. I fed him to sleep at 7pm, he then woke 5 mins later crying for me, I fed to sleep again and then he woke about 30 mins later and this continued until I gave in and came to bed, and then right through the night he fed on and off and I think I counted about 12 feeds!! I'm shattered today!!
Anyone else feeling the same??

Hi, I could have written this three months ago. I didn't find a solution but childcare, crawling, standing, cow's milk and time have made a big change- I'm just a bout to drop the last bf. It will happen I promise and it does feel like you can't go on but you can because you're a mum.

Offering water, even if you still have to bf straight after is a good start in the right direction. We started with cot sleep 7-8
, then 9 etc now he is in it all night but still wakes. They grow up and it gets easier then harder again.

Sorry if this is no help whatsoever but I wish more people had told me not to worry and to just let myself and dh ds work it out slowly and calmly rather than feel pressure to make his sleep perfect asap

Hi neilsharvest
This is a great help thank you. Others have said the same thing, that he will grow out of it and not to stress! It's just pressure from grand parents that has made me worry endlessly about it. I don't have to go to work so that's something, but I did think it was strange that he seems to have no feeding pattern whatsoever. I have been told to space out his feeds and not feed on demand any more and yet my BLW book says to carry on feeding on demand when weaning. It's all so confusing! I will re read your email every time I am stressed out by something someone says!