OK so tell me, are all babies hard work to get to sleep in the day or is it just all mine?

[DomesticGoddess31]

Seriously, what's normal? DD was HARD. WORK. DS is no flipping better. I have worked like a dog twice this morning to produce 2 30 minute naps and still have a tired grumpy baby and now am having to do it again.

Does everyone have to do this?

How do people cope with looking after a toddler as well? How do you stay sane????

Lol, I think dd is an amazing night time sleeper too, after ds! I wake up feeling refreshed after 6 hours of broken sleep. I wonder if I am just used to being a sleep deprived wreck. Imagine how sparkling and witty I would be if I was getting a regular 8 hours.

Thanks for replying everyone. I feel better to know its not just mine that are shocking sleepers. DS is 11 weeks. He'll sleep if I hold him or put him in the sling(I have a manduca) but he's heavy and it makes it very hard to get anything done. I guess I just have to suck it up and wait for this stage to pass and try not to let it stress me out.

Frustratingly he was sleeping well at night, 6 hours and then 3 from about 10pm but is now going backwards. Last night was waking every 2-3 hours again....argh! Got another osteopath appointment tomorrow so we shall see if that helps.

If he was my first I wouldn't mind so much as I could just cuddle him when he sleeps but my poor 3 year old gets ignored enough!

Yes, it's harder with no 2! You just can't spend the time getting them to sleep like with no1. It's sleep on your own or don't!

Im on number 3 who won't nap properly in her Moses basket during the day!

She's a sling baby, as was my middle dc. I'm just going with it, as I have school runs and lots to do with two older dc.

Yet she will do stretches of four to six hours at night in her Moses basket. I've never worked out why. I'd of thought they feel less secure at night and in the dark.

My older two did eventually settle into proper naps in their cot. I found when they started solids and this brought a natural rhythm to the day with meals and more activity.

I have always tried self settling in cot/basket when I can though. For example at weekend and less pressure to be places I will use white noise/rock/cuddle etc and puther down. Even if she only manages 20-40 minutes. I will also leave tired grizzles for a short time but if it cranks up I pick her up and I can't do CIO. I think it gently and slowly teaches them.

It's all in self settling and a little bit of personality. They weaken a bit after a cycle of 20-40 mins and if they can't self settle seek mummy prop to get back over. Normal when they''ve been in utero for nine months andthe whole concept of falling asleep is alien to them. You are very lucky if you have an easy self settler before 3-6 months imo.

It is hard though. I'm thankful she'll at least do long naps in sling or next to me but some struggle even with that.