COLD TURKEY DUMMY PROBLEMS - HELP!!!

[LittleLegs1987]

Any one able to help?

I have a 20 month old and we have gone cold turkey on the dummy during the night (he also doesn't have it during the day!) we put him to bed and he screams his head off but does it while laying down so we just let him scream and after about 15 mins he goes off to sleep! However, at about 3:30 am he is waking and with no dummy to comfort him he is just crying on and off - I have tried going in to him and laying him back down but this just makes him scream louder - I work so getting up at like 4 am every day is not an option - is there something I can do or is this something I just have to ride out? I am seriously thinking about giving in to the dummy to get some sleep but we have nearly gone a week cold turkey now and don't really want to admit defeat but I need sleep!

HELP!!!! Thanks! :)

Is there a reason he can't have it to help him sleep? If he's not having it in the day, then what harm can it be doing having it just go fall asleep?

If you're worried about his teeth, slip it out on your way to bed but leave it close by for him to find when he wakes?

I just don't want to give him mixed messages though - he can fall asleep without it at nursery without any problems, no tantrums or crying! I really want rid of it because he will then cry when he knocks it out of the cot so I am still up and down anyway - that was the point of taking it away!

I just don't know what to do for the best and I need sleep!

Does he have a comforter or toy? You might need to transition from the dummy to this. We just went cold turkey with DD, who is 20 months. Just like your DS she only used it at home at night. She also had a stuffed toy though, and transitioned to sucking one of its ears in lieu

He was attached to a bear but he throws it out of the cot now : / when I go in he is wide awake shouting for Mr Tumble! I might try and lay him down and give him his bear and see how that goes down! It is really hard cause he has done so well going without his dummy - not that he ever cried for it during the day - but I just don't want to give in if it passes! I am just in the process of decorating his big boy bedroom maybe that might help moving into a bed?! :/ fingers crossed! :)

Going cold turkey with the dummy is a bit like controlled crying in that with some toddlers it takes a few days but with others it's months of hell.
Part of the problem I think is that 20 months is a bit young to understand reward charts/bribery (which might work better around age 3).

I've tried reasoning/bribery etc with my 2 yr old and she just gets really upset. She was a terrible sleeper as a baby but as a toddler sleeps brilliantly and its largely down to the dummy. We both work ft so are really grateful for that.

So I've given in to the dummy (strictly for sleeptime only, they live in the cot). I don't know anyone in RL who's toddler had problems with speech or teeth as a result of using a dummy (and I know quite a few who didn't give it up till nearer age 4!) though I know there can be health concerns.

Finally, I know one mum who persevered through several weeks of sleepless nights before her toddler gave up the dummy....within a week he was sucking his thumb (having never done it before). At least with the dummy she could make sure it was restricted to sleep time only!

I'd give him back the dummy. My DS1 only ever had his dummy for bedtime/naps from about 12 months onwards. he gave it up just after his 3rd birthday and has no problems from his teeth with it. I figured there was no point fighting over it - he gave it up all of his own accord one day, and got a present as a reward.

FWIW, DS2 (15 months) also has a dummy and will happily put it away as soon as he's dressed in the morning... I was a thumb sucker till I was 13, so I'd much rather have them on dummies than risk them getting attached to their thumbs!

I'm umming and ahing about giving my 3 month a dummy as she wouldn't take it before but settles really well with it now. Does anyone find they have to re plug during the night. And if anyone was in my position now, would you have never started with the dummy?

I gave my dd hers when she was 2 weeks old. She was ff because couldn't latch on and just cried a lot. The dummy comforted her straight away so I guess it was a good idea.
However she is 2.3 now and have a serious problem with weaning her off. She definitely needs it for sleeping (or falling asleep ) but stopped waking up in the middle of night looking for it
During the day if she is busy with other thing she can go on without it for long hours but when she gets upset she will demand it.
I intend to wean her off this year because it really bothers me but I much prefer her having a dummy than sucking her thumb.
BTW I think now my dd is old enough to reason with (swap the dummy for a little toy, explain that the dummy is needed elsewhere for a small baby)