13 month waking up in night and won't settle back in cot - help?

[minxy1969]

Hi,

My daughter finally started sleeping through the night at 10.5 months. She would occasionally wake up and not settle so would come into my bed when teething. We went on holiday and we co-slept as the accommodation could not provide a cot. We are back now and in the last week she has gone to bed in her own cot (and slept in cot during morning nap) but wakes up in the middle of the night (anything from 11.30 -3am) crying and won't settle back in her own cot. I give in and bring her into my bed where she goes straight to sleep. Any ideas how to get her to settle back into her own cot without doing controlled crying?

Thanks

Hi There, I'd be keen to know what replies and advise you receive as I am going through EXACTLY the same thing!!
My daughter is 14 month's old and prior to our holiday did a full week sleeping through from 7pm - 6am. However, on holiday we co-slept and since then she settles at night but wakes around 10pm and won't stop crying until she lays in our bed and then sleeps soundly. I've tried everything and am lost.
However, reading your post makes me slightly relieved to know that it's not just me!! :)

I think if their sleep is good when they co-sleep, go with it!

We used to just get any child that woke in the night, quick feed (if they were babies under 2) bring them into bed and go straight back to sleep. It worked well, we slept well, they slept well.

If on the other hand there was any further waking up whilst co-sleeping or fidgeting or larking around or tossing and turning, we would take the line that we were disturbing them, and they actually wanted to be back in their cots.

When they are older you will find you miss the days when you co-sleep. It is a very special era.

I think it is quite natural for babies to want to co-sleep under the age of two. If they are waking several times in the night I can see that co-sleeping with a toddler might be counter productive but my experience was that it led to a peaceful night's sleep for everyone, and no early starts!! (7.00am earliest)

I totally agree with co-sleeping but my DD got to wriggly at about that age that none of us slept well. So in the end my husband set up a camp bed in her room (it couldn't be me because she saw me as milk machine), and when she woke he was with her and talked to her and she eventually went back to sleep. She was a bit annoyed that it wasn't me but at least she wasn't alone. After a few nights she was sleeping all night in her own bed.

yes ,I bedded down on a camping mattress when my son woke in the night! With gentle pat and only saying "time for sleeping " he soon went back to sleep and within a few nights was sleeping through .

My DD has recently turned 1 and shes not been sleeping well the last couple of weeks. She will have her bedtime bottle ans then ill put her down in her cot but aftwr 3-4 hours she wakes up crying i go in to se eher standing in her cot. She has slept through since 9 1/2 months and doesnt have a feed in the night anymore. I know its not a hunger thing and ahes not teethibg as far as we know. I try and settle her down but after 40minutes and no luck, we eventually give in and put her in our bed where she falls asleep either straight away or within the hour but in our room even if shes not asleep shes settled. I dont know what to do to get her to sleep back in her cot. Im at a loss really. Shes so fidgety and its so hard for 2 of of us to share a bed with a wriggly 1 year old. We dont mind co sleeping when she was younger she was really ill for 2 weeks so i co slept then but i wasnt living with my partner (her dad ) at the time so it was easier. I managrd to break the habit and got her to sleep in her cot it took me a month and a half but i did it.

Please has anyonr got any safe ideas? I dont agree with the letting them cry out.
Anything will be helpful!