help trying to get son to sleep through the night.

[capalune]

help trying to get son to sleep through the night. I Put my ds to bed after a bath at 8pm and he will wake at 3am. Friends have sujested dream feeding so i tried this. I woke him at midnight and then he would wake us at three as usual. Others sujested giving him water at three but this just makes him angry. I usual change his nappie at 3 too but i been told not to. He uses washables and they are always soaking. Does any one have any advice??

How old is his?
When you dreamfeed you should not wake him, give him a feed without him waking up. You won't need to burp him either. Can you possibly do a double nappy at night?

he's 2months. and i have been doubling the inner. when i change him this would wake him and he would start to cry. should i let him wake me at three or should i dream feed?

I would let him wake you, he probably needs the calories at night still. Have you heard of cluster feeding?

Cluster feeding litterally means tanking them up.
You would do a 2 hour interval feeding in the early evening say at about 6pm and 8pm or 5pm and 7pm, follow by a dreamfeed at 10 or 11pm.

With a dreamfeed you do not wake him or talk to him, if possible just a very dim light or none at all. (this type of feeding works well when they are going through a growth spurt too).

If the cluster feeding doesn't work ditch it and rather stick to the 11pm feed.

You do have to keep in mind that your son is still very small and probably still needs his calories at night. My son went down to sleeping from 6:30pm - 3pm from around 12 weeks. From there you can start working on reducing the night feeds.

do you feed on demand or are you on a routine?

I did a routine in the day and left the night for him to wake me!

I hope this helps.

Thank you i will give it cluster feeding a go. I have been rather nervous him being the first and my familys in the uk.
I feed on routine now that i have move over to the bottle. He was so hunry i could easily speed 1 1/2 - 2hrs bfeeding so i now feed with formula The thicker form. for future ref when you said You do have to keep in mind that your son is still very small and probably still needs his calories at night. My son went down to sleeping from 6:30pm - 3pm from around 12 weeks. From there you can start working on reducing the night feeds.

how would i go about that?

Hello my dd only woke once for feed in the night from birth but 3am was regular waking time - as I increased his feeds by an ounce as suggested on formula tin I then slightly reduced his middle of night bottle by half and ounce every week - I foundthen as he got a bit older his waking stretched later by 30 mins each week until finally at 13 weeks he regularly sleeps through till 7am
We do feed at 10.30pm and will do so at this time until we wean - he does wake as he also has to have medicine at this time but settles back after 30 mins - I do suggest winding if your baby needs it though as couple of times when I didn't he would wake in the night crying with some discomfort
I know how desperate you feel for the magic night when you wake up when its 7am but as much as I think you can help nudge it along I also think it happens when your babies body is physically able to cope with sleeping that long and thats different in all of them
Would agree though feeding once a night is very promising and you are doing really well you will get there

Capalune - I thought I would just write a quick note to help reassure you. My ds is now 14.5 weeks old and until the last couple of days has been waking once or twice during the night. Recently he has just decided to go longer during feeds both day and night - not sure how long it will last but keeping my fingers crossed. We now dream feed around 10.45pm and last night he went until 4.15am, but it all depends on how much food he takes during his dream feed. We've tried tanking up and getting more food in him during the day but he's not interested and gets very upset if you try and give too much food - so def stick with the dream feed if you have to choose one.
I guess what I am saying is I had the same concerns to you but have come to realise that they make their own decisions as to when they are ready and able to move to sleeping longer periods. Hope this helps!

Thank you All for your adive! And in coragement. I will give the cluster feeding with a dream feed a go. see how it goes. like you all say in the end it's him who will decide. thanks again

I'm sure you'll get the hang of it. Glad I could help!

I Just wanted to say a big THANK YOU{ From the night that i tried the cluster feeds and the dream feed he slept through. from 8pm dream feed ant 12 and then he wake us at 8am . it wonderful thank you!!!!!!