Does anyone ever just think this is f***ing sh*t sometimes?

[EmmaLL25]

Just trying to 'reach' one year old to self settle again. He's loses the ability every time he teeters or gets sick (which is all the god damn time).

All we've achieved this morning is a lot of tears from us both.

I'm just thinking fuck this. We can co-sleep until he's 5 if need be rather put up with this shit.

So frustrated because its worked before. So why not now?!?!

Aaaaaaarghghhh

Well I went for the co-slleping... All
Three grew out of it no problem, made things a lot easier I felt...

like verycold we just went with the co-sleeping. i'm very much a path of least resistance type person, and it made us all a lot happier and resulted in much more sleep!

all 3 of mine have slept by themselves eventually (before 5!) and i'm sure number 4 will too

I feel the same.

DS slept like a dream so we never had to worry.

DD wakes without fail every night but she comes in with us and is back asleep within 5 mins and everyone is happy. It works for us.

I have a job which requires me to concentrate. Arsing around for hours in the night trying to get her back to sleep in her cot doesn't really appeal to me at the moment as I've only been back to work about 2 months. I'm hoping she'll grow out of it.

I quite like co-sleeping. It' would be ok if he could just cobble together more than 90 minutes at the start of the evening.
I'd just like to eat my dinner, maybe chat to my husband etc.

When he self settles he'll do 3-4 hr stretches. He's feeding to sleep just now which is taking over an hour at night.

Before this latest bout of illness he'd put himself to sleep in half an hour and then do a few hours at least.

Before Christmas we had him in own room and down to one night feed, maybe one other wake up where his dad could settle him.

I'm all for path of least resistance, that's how we ended up co sleeping from about four months.

It's just been a crap morning and I hate upsetting him.

Sigh sigh sigh

I quite like co-sleeping. It' would be ok if he could just cobble together more than 90 minutes at the start of the evening.
I'd just like to eat my dinner, maybe chat to my husband etc.

When he self settles he'll do 3-4 hr stretches. He's feeding to sleep just now which is taking over an hour at night.

Before this latest bout of illness he'd put himself to sleep in half an hour and then do a few hours at least.

Before Christmas we had him in own room and down to one night feed, maybe one other wake up where his dad could settle him.

I'm all for path of least resistance, that's how we ended up co sleeping from about four months.

It's just been a crap morning and I hate upsetting him.

Sigh sigh sigh

I went for co sleeping, they all grew out of it

everyone got more sleep
win win

I want to co sleep I'm sleeping on a single mattress on the floor at the mo till we move house, I haven't had more than 3 hours sleep in a row in about 6 weeks. I am exhausted. I was talking to ds earlier and couldn't work out why I couldn't see him - it was because I'd shut my eyes.... So yes, it is shit.

I want to run away to a place with night nannies and cozy beds. You can all come if you like

i can't remember how i used to settle mine at that age. i think i used to feed them to sleep in my bed and then go back downstairs. or something.
the lack of time to chill out does suck, i totally get that. it's not too long in the grand scheme of things though :)

Thanks peeps. I think I know all this really, just need reminding sometimes!

I hear you! We are exactly the same except she's never self settled... we co sleep but attempt to get her to sleep upstairs in the eve. Last night it took two hours (pretty par for the course at the mo). Got downstairs, poured glass of wine, chinked glass with DH, baby woke, then another hour of settling. Ended up being trapped under her without having brushed my teeth etc and was by then midnight. Daytime naps I can't get away at all. And people ask why I don't have any hobbies! Really hope it improves for us all soon!

I feel like that today, DS and I are both sat crying on the floor! Just got him into a routine and he bloody got sick now he can't self settle can't fall asleep in his cot can't anything but scream!
And DH can apparently only criticise today!!!!!

Yep, thought it many times during the six years DD1 never slept much better than a tiny baby until we finally got an assessment of a significant sleep disorder and got prescribed melatonin.
Thought it more when all the 'well -meaning' friends, family and hell, even virtual strangers thought we were exaggerating/inadequate/whatever....
And then, when my DF recently remarked that the fact that DD2 who is a completely different kettle of fish sleep wise 'must be because we're more experienced/less stressed parents this time don't you think???'
Sorry, which part of significant sleep disorder didn't you understand? especially since I had exactly the same and I was their third child, thus disproving his smug little theory.
Aaaaaaaaaaggghhhhhh!!
Oops, clearly still a bit traumatised by it all!
Co-sleeping saved all our sanity....(and melatonin)
So, I feel your pain OP - but even the worst sleeper gets there in the end - DD1 is going on her very first sleepover tonight, finally feeling like she can cope and has a strategy for if she wakes whilst there. She is now 8.
Be nice to yourself and each other x

Good to know we're not alone and that it does get better. Hope everyone is enjoying their baby cuddles tonight.